How do you respond when someone asks you if you have gained weight?

So my mother in law everything I see her asks if I have gained weight. I am currently 12weeks not really showing, yet I find the question to be really rude. Am I being too sensitive? I just find the question really rude and uncomfortable. The directness just rubs me up the wrong way. Every time I see her it’s the same question as she looks me up and down. I makes me not want to see her and really uncomfortable. Is it just me?

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It’s not just you I hate it when people ask me if I’ve gained weight it makes me feel so self conscious

I’m sorry that happened to you. It is uncomfortable right?! Like it’s 2024 it is never appropriate to comment on weight ever. I just don’t even know how to respond.

Sorry to hear this. Whenever someone says something to me that I don't like, I go back with a question/remark as a joke but will likely make the other person feel uncomfortable and not say again. In this case I would say "Whyyy are you calling me fat?!" then laugh to soften the blow. If she says it again say "You're not calling me fat again?! Charming!!" then laugh again. She'll likely stop saying it (hopefully!) xx

Thank you for that! I think that’s a great suggestion but for my my Mother in law doesn’t seem to take the hint. I made a joke and said a lady never tells but it kinda went over her head. I think I will get my husband to have a word because she has asked a lot.

Not that it matters….I’m just curious, but does she actually know you’re pregnant? Like is she just generally asking about your weight or is it possible she is trying to suss out if you’re expecting?
Either way, if my MIL asked me that I’d be really offended.

No she knows I’m pregnant that’s why she is asking. I wear baggy clothes so no one can tell and I’m not showing so I think that’s why she is asking. I’ve lost weight in my first trimester because of HG.

If she didn’t know and I had gained weight I would get it defo. But it feels like she is just being rude and direct. She only ever goes on about the negatives like oh you will get stretch marks everywhere too. It’s hard because I try to be kind but she just isn’t 🙃

I'd say... I'm not weighing myself at the moment, I'm letting my body do whatever it needs to to nurture our baby, so weight is the last thing on my mind.

That’s such an amazing response thank you ♥️

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