Not doing enough or doing too much

My 3 month old is starting to get whinny with laying down. So I hold him up a lot. I do tummy time on my chest sometimes on the pillow. I try to keep talking to him he stops sometimes and just smiles or chuckles. I try to put his rattles in his hands. We sing nursery songs. Watch lion king. Sometimes I practice rolling him. He rolled from his stomach to back once. I feel like he keeps his hand bawled up still a lot so it’s hard. We read some times.

Don't listen to others. You're doing just fine. If she's showing improvement with head control thru tummy-tummy time, that's fine and counts. I'm similar. I would try to get some laying flat time either on tummy or back so baby has a chance to get used to it and try working on moving her limbs. I don't think there's much you can do about reaching for things until they start showing interest. My girl has no interest in anything besides people and occasionally the TV. Doesn't care about objects yet.

We are our babies warmth and they’ll forever want us to hold them so just give her time. I started gradually with my baby. First time I put her on the fisher price play gym by herself she screamed and freaked out. But now she’ll stay on there as long as I want. She loves it. Just go gradually, 5 minutes at a time then increase it. Same with Tummy time.

My 3 months old holds her head up by herself and people are shocked because I literally hold her allll the time. The trick is quality time not quantity. 30 minutes of good quality tummy time is better than hours of tummy time where baby is miserable ❤️

My son is 3mo and I keep thinking same things. I have to remind myself everything is a phase, and every child learns at a different pace. I hold my son when he wants, but I also let him cry a few sec before I pick him up if I'm in the other room. I constantly talk to him to let him know I'm never far. He too only tummy time for a few min before crying, so I'm just being patient with it Encouraging his independence is important to me, but I care more about his spirit right now and our connection since we are still bonding and building trust. I think there will be seasons when he will do everything himself eventually, and others where he will want constant reassurance and touch. I say follow your instincts with mommy love at the front of your heart, and you'll know when it's time to give her more space as she grows. You can speed up any process with practice as you wish since they have all our smarts and ability to learn in their environment but if you two are happy right now that's the most important thing.

Sounds like you’re building a beautiful relationship and practicing attachment parenting. Some people think this style of parenting makes way for “spoiling” and “bad habits”, but from experience and as a child development specialist, this creates a strong and healthy bond and when the time comes, an easier ability to be independent and more of a secure attachment in relationships

my son is 3 months old and is the same way!! we just have been working on reaching for things and playing with rattles. he likes to grip his blanket and try to eat it 😂 we sing to him. he also loves watching cartoons, especially really colorful ones! you are doing just fine mama and don’t listen to anyone saying you are babying her too much. baby’s really can’t start self soothing until they are 6 months old as they start to realize they are their own person ❤️

going with what i just said, every baby is different and some may can self soothe sooner!

As long as it's not over stimulating you hold your baby as much as they want to be held. It's good for the immunes system, emotional regulation and a well rested baby. Try getting a a baby wrap or carrier and ignore the people who may be well intended are giving silly incorrect advice.