Circumcision

I chose not to and I don’t regret it at all! If anything I feel more justified in that decision the more I read.

I don’t regret it… my son is only 7 months but I’m here to follow I guess bc I’m wondering what is there to regret?

So far for me it was just a decision that has been made and I never thought of it again

i chose not to & i definitely do not regret it. its so easy to just pull the skin down and clean his genitals & will teach him to clean it. i don’t see the point in removing it but i also am not judging parents who chose to do it.

Didn’t get either of my boys done (2yrs and 11m) I don’t regret it.

Didn’t get my boy circumcised and definitely don’t regret it!

I’m still pregnant and we are not planning to circumcise solely because I feel it’s robbing our son of his bodily autonomy. I’d prefer to give him the choice to do it as an adult if he pleases. His father is also uncircumcised. We just have to put in a bit of extra work in teaching him how to clean properly to avoid any infections 🥹✨

Didn’t get it and don’t regret it!

I just got mine done a few days ago and honestly he came back the same quiet baby and everything is going good . He doesn't seem bothered . I think I really was more scared cause I didn't know what to look forward to but the fact that it doesn't bother him makes me feel a lot better. Plus before he got it his foreskin was damn near closed.

We chose not to have a circumcision but had to do one later (around 9 months) due to medical issues that came up.

As a nurse I’ve seen several uncircumcised… too many that unfortunately were not properly cared for by nursing staff that their foreskin was matted forward, infected, and stuck..
so - I chose to circumcise my 3 boys for the sake of their future. (Especially knowing the lack of work ethic becoming increasingly noticeable). I don’t trust what needs to be done will be done.

she literally asked for experiences of people who did NOT circumcise 🙄

When we went for a consultation, the surgeon said that really, either way, it makes no difference as long as you have good hygiene. He said it's more of a social or religious preference. He said boys are more likely to get into their teens and wish they were circumcised than to wish they weren't, and he has young adult male patients who come for the procedure later and it's a lot worse then because they remember it, whereas now it's a couple days of discomfort and that's it. He also said it's largely based on your area's culture. He said on the East Coast almost everyone remains uncircumcised but in the area I live, about 95% of boys are circumcised.

Just thought I'd share in case any of that is helpful :)

but if someone did come in with that, they’d actually be responding to the stated question unlike the people who commented that did circumcise. There are a lot of posts asking about if they should or should not, but this specific post just asked for the experiences of those who didn’t. I would (hope) that fosters better responses as it shouldn’t be a debate.

The question doesn’t apply to me personally but my husband and I know someone that had to get circumcised at like 24 because his skin ripped during rough sex 😐🫠😭💔

As unfortunate as that is... its rough sex. Vaginal tears are super common with that, as well as penile fractures, and theres really no way to prevent those. Ultimately "rough sex" is a lifestyle choice an adult made, and circumcision is what benefitted his lifestyle; Most parents against circumcision aren't against it ever being done, just against it being done without the consent of the person its being done to or without reason.

In the UK, it's quite unusual for men to be circumcised. I only know one guy that had to have it done as an adult because he had testicle cancer and I think the tumour had caused restriction of blood flow or something, so foreskin had to go - and I know he says that sex wise, he misses his foreskin. He said comparatively it's much less sensitive and drier than before and if he has a choice, he'd rather be uncircumcised any day of the week.

I know thinking about your baby's future sex life probably isn't high on your list of reasons you're asking 😅, but I thought it was interesting that an adult with both circumcised and uncircumcised experience would advocate for no circumcisions if given a choice.

I do not regret keeping all my boys the way nature intended. My older two are aware of what circumcision is (they're dad is) & said they're glad we didn't do that do them.

Frankly I think it's barbaric that anyone would consent to a cosmetic procedure done on a newborn that can't receive anesthesia. The majority of the world leaves their boys intact.

I got my son circumcised because of the infections they could have when they get older and aren’t taught proper hygiene…. I would have regretted it if I didn’t get it done at birth… when they get older it’s much harder to get the surgery. Yes it may be painful at birth, but at birth they really don’t have any idea. It’s not that much of a mental toll on them. Plus when they’re newborn, all they do is eat sleep and poop. Repeat. Lol
They heal up quickly and less painfully!

I think it all depends on where you live.. in the UK it’s not even spoken about to be honest, it doesn’t happen a lot unless for religious reasons.
I have 3 boys now and none of them are done, my husband isn’t, none of the men I know..
I honestly think it’s a shame that in other countries it’s almost done just so men can ‘fit it’ there’s not really any medical reasons that justify it in my eyes anyway x

I originally planned to because I saw an uncircumcised once and no offense to anyone but it was just ugly and creepy to me lol idk don't come for me.
Anyways.. before the baby came I found out my husband is uncircumcised but ya'll... I swear I thought he was cut he looks cut and everytime I made a joke about uncut he laughed hard af and would repsond with ant eater ****. Anyway my husband is well above average there's nothing to pull back its just out there. My son is uncircumcised.

All the men on my husbands side of the family (my husband, his dad, his grandad etc) are circumcised and I chose not to have it done to my son as my husband said it has left him with sensation problems and he didn't want our son to experience the same difficulties. So I don't regret making the decision not to get him circumcised.

I have a 2 year old and a 5 year old that I never circumcised. No regrets. If they want to later that’s their choice.

Tbh it’s not even thought of in the UK - well not that I’m aware of. Nobody gets circumcised unless you are maybe of Muslim religion?
I do NOT regret not getting my little boys done, to me it would be odd and unnecessary

Someone said in the uk its unusual… People who dont do it for religious reasons tend not to even think about it (majority not all) but theres alot more boys/ men circumcised then u think… but do what you think is best at the end of the day if its what u do decide try get it done before there 3 months

Absolutely do not regret keeping my son intact. America has a twisted obsession with doing it and complete misinformation is posted constantly on this app and others like it. Check out your whole baby.

My son is not cimurcmsized. His father isn't as well. And I honestly left the decision up to him because I don't have a punishment. He does and he said he wasn't he dad wasn't so our son don't need to be. He said his dad always hoped him how to clean himself correctly so he will be teaching our son the same! My bbydaddy has never had any infections or any problems. Yes in sure men do get infections but again thats all due to not being clean!

It's not common in Germany to circumcise. Problems are quite rare, if any occur they can still get circumcised. I did not circumcise and do not regret it, I don't expect I will. If it's too tight or anything sure he will get circumcised but if that isn't the case and we teach him proper hygiene I don't think it will be problematic. Never had a partner that was circumcised or had problems with their foreskin either

I’m reading this post and my mind is blown. In the UK barely anyone is circumcised and I’ve never heard of anyone having a problem. Unless you’re doing it for religious reasons, it seems crazy to have the procedure done unless there’s a medical reason 🤯

There is going to be lots of arguments for and against here but the biggest one is that circumcision is not regularly done in Europe or Asia unless for religious reasons.

This debate is all in the US.

Anything so localised in just the US is sketch. Are penises in the US different to the rest of the world? No. If penises are clean everywhere else, that really poses some weird questions for the US.

What is different is the healthcare system. They just want your money... And weirdly your son's foreskin.

Not me but I have a friend with a 3 year old uncircumcised & she ended up getting him surgery done last year because it started to irritate him and he started to develop a lot of complications. He went backwards in potty training it would hurt to go & she hated seeing her son in pain. Seems like from previous posts depending on the person/beliefs etc. The dad is the one who chose not to due to religious background. But then they ended up doing so.

I personally would never even entertain the thought, it's very uncommon in the UK unless for religious reasons or if there is a genuine health issue.

I just thought that hygiene can and should be teached, so that's not a reason for me. And if it's to prevent medical issues it's still weird because I haven't heard anyone gets their appendix or tonsils removed just for prevention

I'm happy we did. I let my fiancé decide since he has the part. But I was in agreement.

Not controversial- and my husband and I couldn’t figure the best reason to do so. It’s the way nature Intended. I will teach him proper hygiene and normalize his beautiful, natural body. That’s that

100% agree xxx

No regrets. It's, in my opinion, and unnecessary procedure. My son was also born early and needed the NICU and they won't do it there.

I would never have my son circumcised unless there was a genuine medical reason to do so. I don't see it as any different to FGM which is abhorrent. Then again I live in the UK and it really isn't a common thing culturally at least, I'm not religious so don't know enough about it for that purpose.

I agree with you 🫶🏼

my husband is circumcised and he did not want our son circumcised. He wishes he had the decision left up to him because he would have preferred not to have had it done. But that’s the thing, once you do it it cannot be undone. If you don’t do it, it can be done at any time if needed or wanted.

you don’t believe it’s traumatic? Have you ever watched a video on mutilating an infant? It’s absolutely traumatic and the screams are beyond awful.

in some cases just as babies scream bloody murder sometimes when alone in a crib. When done at 2 weeks or earlier, both pediatricians I’ve spoken with said most babies sleep through it. Where as they said after 1 month they do not and need a stronger analgesia

number one no baby should be left to cry in a crib. Number two comparing a child to crying in a crib and mutilating them draws absolutely no comparison. Number three you know pediatricians are not the ones mutilating the babies. Number four those same pediatricians receive money for someone else causing harm. Number five insurance does not cover it cause it’s cosmetic. Lastly you really need to watch elephant in the hospital and then tell us babies are asleep when they are being cut.

okay not getting in a war with you on this, and not saying it’s okay to leave a baby in a crib…. Just an example that any time an infant screams it’s awful. Btw most insurance does cover it except Medicaid and for non infants because it’s a much more serious procedure when older.

So a brief summary: Regrets of not getting circumcised were needing it done later
regrets of circumcision are often: It needed to be revised, it was done poorly, it was witnessed and clearly caused the child pain, procedure complicated or there were issues.
If you're curious even in this thread there are several moms talking about regretting the cut, or issues they had regarding it.

the foreskin is fused as a baby. It's supposed to be that way.

My partner is Jewish. And was not circumcised, nor did we circumcise our son. I truly believe it’s cruel and mutilating, I did not want my son to come into the world and get bits of his body cut off for no reason. I would have 100% if there was a medical reason. I even told the Rabbi so and guess what, my son had a naming ceremony at 6 weeks and is STILL Jewish. Lol

We chose not to. My husband is circumcised, and he really didn't have a strong opinion but would have because it's the “societal norm” however we had a home birth and would have to see an urologist to get the procedure done. The closest urologist who does home birth circs was a couple hours south of us, out of state, and would be an out of pocket cost. He also only does it in the first 28 days of life.

My husband lost his job when I was 33 weeks pregnant so we had already been dealing with financial stress and playing catch up after he got back to work so out of pocket wasn't really an option.

I knew I didn't want to do it, because I'd done a ton of research. So I was glad that things aligned in a way that favored my wants.

Never pull on the skin, it can cause micro tears, scar tissue, and infections.

The only annoying thing that's been said is a family member who asked if he was and said we should. I asked why and he said it would just look weird and girls won't like it. And I said that as a woman I honestly couldn't tell you what the difference is once it's hard, and all penises are kinda ugly 😂

you shouldn't pull the skin down.

We didn’t and have no regrets