Husband keeps disconnecting monitor when I leave the house

Definitely suss. When you get home is it still unplugged?

I’m not sure if it will be unplugged when I get back but I texted and confronted him about it so I’m sure he will probably plug it back in and act confused. last time he wasn’t expecting me to get home as early as I did and he was being super sus he JUMPED out of bed and was naked and just said he was super hot I was like …. Weird?

The fact that he’s doing it is weird, but the fact that he’s lying about doing it is even weirder. My mind would go a million places. Because wtf are you doing that you need to do that?

I was honestly considering it and putting a hidden camera and leaving the house on purpose but is that like super invasion of privacy lol

right? It’s literally just pointed at the bassinet it doesn’t show the room or him at all so really he’s disconnecting it for the audio so I’m thinking he be on the phone with people or something?

LMAOOOOO

That is really weird. Is your baby home with him when he’s doing this or is he home alone?
Hidden cameras for sure, at that point I wouldn’t care about his privacy. He’s acting suspicious.

I second getting a nanny cam! if you find something and then it causes arguments I’d just go on to say I wanted a back up system bc ours seems to be faulty! If you find nothing then you don’t have to keep it

yea I leave with the baby, if he’s with the baby it doesn’t get unplugged

Oh weirddd

I thought it was everytime you left

Nanny cam

So he jerking off to porn while you gone or something worse

It's gotta be him pleasuring himself but if it's the kind of relationship where that's normal for him to do in front of you I don't understand the need. Well i suppose i do actually, it's like quite an intimate thing where you don't want to risk someone hacking into it or baby overhearing youuu listening to it lol. I'd probably turn it off if I was gonna get myself off too lol

It's not even about the noise it's just like, that's the babys equipment and he's having a non baby experience over there haha adult time.

So he called me after I sent him a text about it and he said he disconnected it bc of all the notifications he said since the baby isn’t here he didn’t see the need to keep it on .. I mean makes sense but still weird that it’s the second I leave the house? I acted like I believed it I just said oh that makes sense so he doesn’t start acting different but I’m gonna put the nanny cam.

when we do the deed I just face the camera away bc if someone hacks I don’t want video of it lmfao and he doesn’t care that there’s audio of that so I think it’s something he doesn’t want me to hear not about others hacking.

We need an update when you have the nanny cam results

This is superrrr weird and the naked thing. I don’t know id be paranoid. I second getting the nanny cam.

If someone was doing this they would get one chance to stop before I threaten to send the police over

Sus af

So strange.. he could just be masturbating and is embarrassed that you could hear, or it could be something more extreme like neglect. Does the baby ever seem distressed when you come back?

Girl im sorry but this is weird id put another cam where he don’t know and see for urself. Or I’d say i was leaving, stay behind a bit and see what’s happening, then catch him in the middle of what he’s doing.

^^^ do what she says “leave” and when he unplugs the cam wait like 10 extra minutes and go back and be like oop forgot something to see if he’s doing something also get a nanny cam

he is the police 🤡🤡🤡

oh no the baby is never with him when he does this the baby is with me

Oh thank god!! But still very, very odd

Lol, sounds like just jacking off to me, who wants a baby cam listening in on that 😂 this is assuming there is nothing else suspicious going on...but if it was me and my partner who I totally trust was doing that I'd not be worried.

he’s cheated in the past so I don’t totally trust him that’s why lmfao

This makes me so uncomfortable just thinking about it! It’s not normal so go get that nanny cam ASAP!!!

I ordered the nanny cam!

I got a pen camera hopefully it’s not noticeable

Hella sus girl this is giving me anxiety I remember my bd pulled this on me twice my mind was all over the place but I ended up getting a nanny cam too..he still doesn’t know I got it 🤣

which kind did you get?

because why would I jump to get a divorce and do that to my son without knowing anything for certain that’s a very rash decision to make my son grow up with divorced parents over a trust issue

tbh haven’t thought that far 🤣🤣 but I think if it’s just him jerking off to porn or whatever I’m not gonna care, but if he’s on the phone talking to other girls or something or bringing people into our home that’s when I’m gonna have to figure out how to go about that

she can just get rid of the camera once she’s found out what’s going on. I’m sure she will know what to do next without causing a fight or argument. The camera is to gain evidence of his suspicious behaviour, you see it as toxic and others see it as trying to save her relationship. Leave the judgment to yourself.

so nothing about this guys behaviour is dodgy to you, you consider this normal behaviour? That’s why I see your questions unrelated and judgmental.

There’s nothing wrong with having your own opinions about the situation but she’s just doing what needs to be done. How would you bring up something like this in a normal conversation if he’s not opening up about the situation and giving straight answers?

it’s the fact that he turns of the camera as soon as she leaves like why can’t it wait? You’re not thinking very much.

I’m not being rude or aggressive in any way, I’ve just been in a similar position so, these are questions that go through my mind through experience. So that’s why these questions come to mind. So sorry if you think I’m being rude or aggressive but I was not trying to come across like that.

I don't know if there's any true harm in setting up the nanny cam. She has tried asking him, she has caught him acting suspicious and he's basically denying everything. He had his chance to come clean and explain himself. Like OP said, if it's just that he's masturbating and is paranoid about the camera being on then there's no harm and she'll take it down and it gives her a bit of peace of mind but if he's cheating and there needs to be further discussion he can't deny and gaslight his way out of it. He's already broken the trust by lying and denying. The nanny cam would be a quick and easy way to either diffuse the situation and give OP peace of mind or start figuring out next steps if divorce truly is the answer.

Some people find it hard to trust in general but that doesn't mean we should jump to accusing our partners right away and make it their problem every single time they do something we find a little suspicious but is actually super normal. It's normal to not want a camera on near where we are masturbating if we know that someone could check it at any time from anywhere even if that person is our spouse. I'm not saying it's a great option but it's better than projecting our own insecurities onto a potentially innocent person.

So I thought baby was home and he was turning the camera off and that to me was a huge red flag and would make me hide a camera somewhere.
We don’t leave our camera in 24/7 and only turn it on when baby is in her bed.
It’s strange he’s lying about turning it off.
I don’t think I agree with hiding cameras to watch him when he’s on his own but not knowing why he’s so secretive and lying would drive me insane.
Have you tried just asking him outright if he is turning it off because he’s masturbating? If that’s the reason, it’s absolutely fair enough.

It’s weird for sure. Judge Judy says if it doesn’t make sense, it usually isn’t true. And his “reasons” why it’s getting unplugged don’t make sense. Something is up.

I did last time actually when he jumped out of bed and was being weird I was like you don’t need to lie you can just tell me if you were masturbating I really don’t care there’s nothing wrong with that and he swore he wasn’t 🤷🏻‍♀️ after he just ran to the bathroom for like 30 minutes saying his dick was hurting idk how that happens but I also don’t have a dick so idk but sounds like a lie 😂😂

that's just me being optimistic. Not all porn is created equal and not all relationships are cool with porn. But I certainly agree with you that it is probably something worse.

I have the one on Amazon that’s like a alarm clock .. I saw that little pen one but it was too many mixed reviews about it not bringing clear or having clear audio.

The thing I don’t get is if he’s unplugging it to watch porn, why go to the trouble to unplug it just to be in the bedroom, why not just watch porn/jerk off in another room? Seems odd to me

I. Am. INVESTED!!!

Everything I had to say has already been said so im going to just follow and wait for the update 😫😂

Also I’m just soooo very glad to find out that baby is not home with him bc let me tell youuuu my mind was on 300mph

Also following for the out come .
I'm glad I read through the comments. The worst was going through my head till I knew baby was out with you every time