What age do you stop holding a baby upright after a feed

We sit our baby upright for 30 minutes after feeding during the day and at night as advised by our heath visitor but its becoming very difficult at night to stay awake and do this and the lack of sleep is ruining the days. At what age can he lay down after a feed and can stop doing this at night? He is 4 months old and bottle fed.

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We were doing 30 mins too but have dropped to 10/15 mins at night which seems to be working. Id rather stay up those extra 10 minutes than just be falling back to sleep and shes sick on herself and her bed

Has baby got reflux or anything like that? We’ve only been advised 30 minutes because little girl has reflux but I was of the understanding that 10-15 minutes would usually suffice x

I have never removed my baby from his next to me and bottle fed him (dream fed him) just propping his head up with my other hand and he goes straight back to sleep after his night feed. He only has one now he is 16 weeks. But then again my baby has never been sick after a feed, is this why maybe? If I was worried about sick I would definitely be knackered like you are xx

I only sit mine up during day feeds 🙂

As per pp's, if he doesn't have reflux you can put him straight down. I didn't hold my first up at all, as she didn't need burping. My second has reflux, but if she's fallen asleep lying down after feeding at night and isn't uncomfortable, I don't wake her to hold her upright afterwards. If I do, at night, it'd only be for 5-10mins unless she's crying cos uncomfy. She's not always sick after every feed, so it's not severe reflux.

Maybe gradually reduce over time, and if he's falling asleep quickly after and not crying/moaning or being sick, then keep decreasing that time.

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