Does anybody else’s little girl do this?

my girl will kick scream and shout the house down when i’m changing her nappy, specifically when i clean inside of her bits. She won’t let me do it for the life of her. I’m worried that either someone has done something to her and that’s what is causing this or whether this is entirely normal? Please say someone else has this issue. She doesn’t particularly like having her nappy changed but that bit is an EXTREMELY difficult area to clean and more often than not i cannot clean it properly. This is a more recent thing over the past maybe 2 months. she is 14 months old?? someone put my mind at ease before i throw these accusations around🫠

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Maybe she has an infection or for some reason is finding it sore.

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If it makes it any easier, changing my little boy who is 15 months tomorrow has been hell for the past 5/6 weeks...its almost like he just doesn't want to.bw interrupted 🤦‍♀️

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My sons 14 months and screams the house down whenever we change him atm, half the time I thinks it’s because he doesn’t want to be interrupted or stopped, he’s currently on the go 24/7. I did take him to the gp to double check but there’s no issues down there. Maybe a check to just makesure? X

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My daughters usually pretty decent with nappy changes but just started throwing a fit when we clean her for a poo 😩 if I don’t feel like she’s clean enough I’ll run a little baby bath or fill up the kitchen sink and just give her a very quick clean she likes water tho so accepts that easily

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My boy has started to screw up his face when I'm cleaning him. I've put it down to wipes being cold and maybe he is starting to realise it 🫣 but my eldest when she was little hated it and would scream at me aswell x

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I’m the only person changing my little girls nappies so I know for this fact that nobody ever touched her as she’s 24/7 with me , she tights her legs together every single time I try to open to clean inside ,I believe is an instinct , she makes it very hard for me to clean her

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Little one suddenly hates it too

Must be developmental

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Are you sure it's not just the sensation of the cleaning? Lots of nerve endings down there and cold wipes. My LG like almost flinches/jumps when I'm cleaning her genitals. It's a very sensitive area (naturally).

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My son is the same. He will cry the moment he gets on the mat or shout at me. I can’t explain exactly what else he does but he kicks, puts himself in awkward positions. Hopefully it’s just a phase, I give him a different toy each time and it seems to calm him. I think it’s because we are taking them away from their fun!

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My daughter is the same, never been a big problem until a few months ago (she is 2 yrs) when trying to clean her bits she tightens her legs together so tight and doesn’t let anyone clean her. After a poo I just run a little bath or wash her with the shower as I’m worried she’ll get sore. The nursery said it’s very common in girls x

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