No judgement please

I’m a first time mom struggling to stay at work I never picture this would be the life I would be living while I had a baby but nothing is ever planned. Her family her collects unemployment & rather work under the table so he doesn’t have to pay child support for his other child which I don’t find fair at all it’s not like he’s paying a lot only $50 a week. I honestly want to be a SAHM to raise our daughter because I feel like I’m the best fit parent to do so but I don’t feel like he’s capable of being head of household or only because we tried it while I was pregnant he ended up losing his job the week we brought our daughter home. I just don’t know what to do I’m just drained and it’s not like I work a regular job I work a warehouse job overnights just to take care of our baby in the morning and now he other 2 are coming for the weekend and he knows I work overnights all weekend 😮‍💨😮‍💨- sincerely a stressed out mama

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I definitely wouldn't become a sahm if your partner is not a stable provider. There are so many posts on here from people in bad situations because they don't have access to money being sahms and the person who is supposed to be earning money isn't or is spending it irresponsibly. Maybe you can find something that pays higher for less hours or a work from home job. I wouldn't put yourself in a situation where you could be financially vulnerable. Even if you were married, if he's just going to earn under the table, you wouldn't be able to get much in child support and alimony if you were to split.

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Im a little desperate already . Im not a huge fan on blowjobs but I’m doing it because I know he likes it . If he wants it in a car, during work meeting , on the balcony, on the beach everywhere I’m okay to do that . However, I’m not getting anything in return. I mean the last time he went down was more than 1.5 years ago . Okay, I was pregnant maybe he did not feel like doing it while I had a belly as he told me . , but I’m not pregnant already for awhile and I’m always telling him that I want him to go down and he is always having an excuse like “tomorrow “ etc . At the beginning it was funny and I was like okayyy but now it’s not as I’m not enjoying our sex in general . Like the process itself does not make me finish . As I’m breastfeeding and super dry down there and I’m always telling him to put lubricant as it’s hurting me . And sometimes it feels like I am begging for that as he is more comfortable without it , but damn IM NOT OKAY without it . So basically I do not remember when was the last time I have finished during sex . I understand that now with a baby it’s hard to fully enjoy it and have enough time for everything. But still . Just kiss me and put your dick inside me does not seems sexy . To be honest I understand why in marriage women does not want to have sex . Like I feel like it’s already work that I have to do not a pleasure. I’ve been telling him that but as I can see no changes applied 🫠

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Whyyy?

I get horny when my man isn’t around but when he’s around and in the mood I’m not. This last Thursday he made me squirt a lot for by birthday. We only get intimate like 2 times a month.

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I tell my partner to wear a condom not only for protection but also so that there's no mess to clean up when I get up to use the toilet. Is this normal?
I ask because I now have the contraceptive pill but I still want him to wear a condom.

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Friend 🥺

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Friends!?😊

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