Not pooping in the potty…

So… we are on day 5 of potty training, my daughter is 2.5. We’ve been in the house since Monday and I think we’ve cracked wees she hasn’t had an accident since Tuesday. As of yesterday she’s been wearing trousers and will take herself off to the potty, pull her trousers/shorts down and have a wee and will then tell me, we celebrate, all good!

Poos however are becoming a challenge! We are lucky she only does a poo once a day but they’ve all so far either been on the foor or in her trousers. When I ask her where the poo goes she tells me in the potty. I’ve been keeping a very close eye on her for signs she’s about to go and I’ll calmly direct her to sit on the potty, I’ll sit with her and she’ll sit there for ages but not do anything and then about 10 minutes later will just poo and say “oh no I’ve done a poo poo” and be quite upset it’s touching her leg! I’ve also thought maybe she wants some privacy so I’ll direct her to the potty and leave the room and she’ll just get up!
I’ve tried brining her with me when I go (poor thing!) and she’ll just wander off!
I’ve tried a chocolate bribe and sticker chart and it just hasn’t worked so far.

Am I expecting too much this early on? Will she just crack it at some point!? We are due to be going out for the whole day on Monday and I’d like to crack the poos by then if we can!

Sorry for the essay but I’m at a loss of what to do!

Thank you xx

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