Depressed with a 4 week old

Feeling really depressed tonight. Feel like I’m failing as a mum and that I can’t do this. My partner went back to work and I’ve been crying. I don’t know how people do this alone. Feel like my little one would be better off without me…

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You are all you baby needs ❤️ I am sure you are doing a wonderful job mama x
Postpartum is really difficult, please be easy on yourself, you absolutely can do this, just some days will be harder than others.
Here is a really helpful guide full of lots of different support available https://childcarenavigator.co.uk/availablesupportguide

You are doing a wonderful job ❤️❤️ we all have been there and felt like that, but it comes down to needing a good support group and somewhere to talk unjudged. For me it was my mother in law and individual therapy, and a mom therapy group, and depression medication honestly. The medication has helped immensely and I realize with group (most of the time 🙃) how I need to not be so hard on myself and judge myself so harshly, because this is my first time being a mom and I'm learning just as my babe is learning new things. You got this mama, find your support group and definitely talk to someone about medication if you're open to it, it helps immensely when you find the right one!

I know exactly how you feel, my partner was on paternity leave for 3 weeks until he wasn’t and from having support around me all the time to being alone it was a big and stressful transition but I want to let you know that it does get better, you can do it alone.

There are days when my daughter and I are very content with just us being alone for 14 hours straight which I never thought would happen

It will take some adjusting but soon you will learn all the tricks and cool little things about your baby.

I know it’s hard to think like this especially at your lowest but just have patience and take it easy on yourself

Drop me a message if you ever need a chat it’s very helpful x

https://www.jessicaurlichs.com/post/mama-all-i-see-is-you
Sending warm hugs xx

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