Is sex an apology?

I feel like for men that is probably an apology

Have you tried actually apologising with words?

For a man I could see sex as being a good apology. But I would also have a conversation with him about how you are feeling and maybe explain to him that you think you are having postpartum rage so he understands where you are coming from. It's always good to have open communication about these things.

yes he always say I apologize and do the same thing or that he don’t wanna hear an apology.

@Nicole well I don't think sex or a verbal apology will work if you just keep doing the same thing all the time. If it's genuinely postpartum rage then maybe speak to your doctor. If he sees your trying to get help or actively making a change, that would be a good apology.

Literally read this aloud for my husbands view.
He said he would take the sex, however, if he sat and thought about it, it’s very manipulative and bribery really since it “works every time”. Obviously it’s happening often, so as others have said, definitely something you need to look at and talk about.

it’s hard for me to apologize I have a fear of my apology not being accepted 😭.

That’s a conversation you need to have with him as well
If you can’t communicate these things because of fear, it needs to be addressed sooner rather than later. Otherwise, you’re both going to be manipulated and it will become a toxic relationship.

I dealt w rage too after my pregnancy…but I didn’t give sex lol cause I wasn’t in the mood. But I think after the amount of times he’s expressed that I need to be nicer to him and I seen that it hurt him, honestly it’s just a choice you have to make to be kind lol. It’s hard and it doesn’t happen over night but one step at a time. I would LOVE to go to therapy cause I got some anger issues but I hate being vulnerable 🫢

I can be vulnerable with a therapist it’s just hard to be vulnerable with men. For me being vulnerable is a privilege so I gotta know we locked in for real

and yeah you’re right idk. We’ll see how it plays out 😫

I wouldn’t take sex as an apology and would not be happy if that was someone’s strategy with me

You don't need to be vulnerable. You need to be kind. That's not a "privilege".

You should speak to your doctor about your mental health.

Whew 🥹😅 this sounds like meeee! I hate apologizing and my bf now caught on to my BS, so a BJ/sex, cute food… NOPE! He wants accountability and grown up discussions. We’ve had whole follow up fights because I refuse to apologize and he clocked my behavior as manipulation trying to sweep stuff under the rug. I’m like you, I don’t wanna have it not accepted, but he showed me that vulnerability is exactly what shows you’re ACTUALLY SORRY. I can accept it when he does it for me, I should be able to do it in return. It’s hard but you’re gonna have to put on your big girl panties and sis I know it sucks!!!! I usually start by trying to figure out wtf my real problem was and go from there. Own my behavior and my reaction to my own feelings and refrain from deflecting to whatever he was doing, keep the topic to you and your behavior. Best of luck 🤞🏾

I think it depends on your man. Head has always made my man forgive me 🤷‍♀️ but there came a point in our relationship where walls went up bc I wasn't respecting him as a person. We work really hard to both heal ourselves and focus on each other's love language and needs.

he always want head but I never give it cause I know that’s what he wants when I’m mad cause I’m so stubborn.

sounds good I’ll give it a try whenever one of us breaks the ice

If he says you apologize and don’t change maybe you need to change (depending on what it is). Sex doesn’t fix problems, apologies doesn’t fix all problems. Acknowledge and work on things.

Hey they say makeup sex is the best lol

The best apology that anyone could ever give you is change; change within yourself. You can give him sex now and it may feel good in the moment and for a short time afterwards. But eventually, the novelty will ware off and you’ll both realise that the issues you have are still there.

Sex is a spiritual act; to connect with your partners soul and to birth life into this world. Sex is not a kit full of tools to fix problems! It’s interesting that you think by giving your man your body, that he will fall weak at the knees. Not all men are shallow, not all men are dogs, not all men are sex fiends that society makes them out to be.
You apologising through sex is a representation of your character, your inability to connect from a place of depth and vulnerability, lack of self-awareness and lack of self-worth.
You have a lot of spiritual and shadow work to do.

Seek couples therapy and/or you attend 1-2-1 therapy.

If you want a different formula, you have to change the method 🙌🏽🌺.

No. An apology is an apology. Sex is sex. If the apology is not made clear for you to get it then it's not an apology. Don't people saying that probably sex is for him. No. Raise your standards. You are with a men and he is supposed to act like he is. Not a little boy.