Would your mother expect you to prepare food for them if they are babysitting your child all day?

Would you expect to do that in return anyway? Or are you of the opinion that they can bring your own food?

Weird one I know. Just curious to know how other people are with their parents.

For context we have a very superficial relationship and my mother doesn’t look after my baby, but my MIL does 2x a week and always brings a packed lunch. I wouldn’t have an issue with feeding her or preparing her meals because she is doing us a favour. However if my mum was to have my kids for the day, I would feel she would expect me to prepare food for her, and due to trauma growing up (she barely bought food and made me buy my own from when I started working, had separate shelves in the fridge)… I feel resentful to do that for her and wouldn’t want to.

Edit: this is completely hypothetical and playing on my mind . No idea why

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No when my mum or mil babysit they prepare their own food and food for my children they've always done this off their own backs so I'd be a bit shocked if they suddenly asked me to prep them food

as in, they bring their own food from home to your house?

When my MIL has my kids I prepare their meals and snacks, she just gives them. She brings a packed lunch for herself.

When my mum baby sat for an evening once she didn’t bring anything with her and I anticipated this, so i begrudgingly made an extra portion of dinner just incase.

If they're at mine babysitting they bring their own food and know where my son's food is kept (he's for a severe food allergy so we have to keep everything separate and use separate cooking utensils for him) and they will prep his food too. If my son's at theirs they keep allergy food at theirs for him and will make all his meals up

My parents and my in-laws have never minded my son at our house but both have him 1 day a week each in their homes. I always sent all his food with him when he was smaller but in the past year or 2 he has just eaten whatever they are having but I still send snacks just in case eg crackers and peanut butter, cheesy crackers, fruit etc.
I think if they were minding him here I'd just make extra dinner if they wanted it or just let them help themselves as I know they wouldn't take advantage

My dad can help himself to my kitchen to feed himself and his gf and my kids. MIL only watches them at her home. I send kid food but it usually comes back unused.

If they’re at my house, they’re welcome to anything in my fridge/cupboards but I’m not preparing something special for them in advance. My kitchen is always well stocked so they’re free to indulge and make whatever floats their boat!

i mean last time my MIL looked after my LO i made lunch up for her and she didn’t even bother giving her that

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

Sahm .. the dad role .

Hi!! I’m 2 months pp. and I really would like your opinion on this situation if you have a moment.
So I have always had a job before the baby, and my bd .. not really. But 2 weeks before he was born he scored a really good job and I was able to be a sahm. Which is what I wanted , and I’m unsure if it’s still what I want or if the situation just isn’t right.
At first he was a great help in the hospital as I had an emergency c section. I was in the hospital for about a week and for most of that time I was in bed .
But after that.. I’m lucky if he will watch the baby while I shower .and I mean that seriously.
I am the only one who changes diapers, only one who bathes , feeds or watched him in general. And of course he may be tired after work but it’s like he completely avoids any responsibility. Like he will take a hour coming home and stop by his friends house otw . He will sit down stairs for hours knowing I won’t go down there bc I’m uncomfy . So I have the baby then.
We have been out maybe 2-3 times sense I had him & he refused to push the stroller c change or anything. In fact we got to the mall and said he needed to split up and I had the baby.
I feel he only wants the baby when it’s for … attention? Like to post the baby on social media or if his family is here he will take him .

I just feel like on days he doesn’t have work the next morning he should be helping , and if he is up early before work while I’m still sleeping he should get the baby instead of scrolling on reels for 3 hours .

Honestly he has really ruined my new born phase with my son. Within the first week of us being home I had to full on switch to survival mode I would call it. He would complain if dinner wasn’t done or if the room was a mess , he would complain if the diaper caddy had no diapers which really makes no sense bc he didn’t even changed the diapers . It was just everything.
I’m just wondering if there is anything I could say to get some type of help out of him.
I tried reaching out to his mother but honestly his hole family is oblivious to his behaviour.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

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