Desperate for advice

My 14 mth daughter will only ever fall asleep if she's on me, since she was born she has always been the same. Honestly I love the cuddles and time with her but it's at a point now where I have to lay with her at around 8pm so that she will go to sleep and by midnight she's awake again wanting to be on me again. I'm not moaning about her wanting me because I love being with her but I can keep living on 2 hours sleep a night. I'm a heavy sleeper so when she wakes up and I have to get her then I'm wide awake because I dread falling asleep with her being so small. I honestly don't know what to do, I have tried everything. This started around 3 months ago, I am drained and tired constantly I just feel lost because nothing is working, I don't feel like I can be the mum I want to be when I'm this exhausted. Has anyone else experienced this and has any tips please

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We switched to safe co-sleeping (bedsharing) when she was around 5 months old due to this, and we all get much better sleep. It just takes a bit of adjustment but it's been a life saver. She's now 16 months and still has contact naps and we still bedshare x

We also switched to safe co-sleeping and I get about 8-10 hours of sleep a night now. We all function so much better. Baby sleeps right through till about and just wakes once for a dream feed. Baby also wakes up calm without crying at all. I know it’s not always ideal for everyone but worth a try if you can do it safely.

Due to this I have been bedsharing and I love sleeping with my little one but It's just me and my daughter 24/7, I love cuddles and her sleeping in my bed but she was fine sleeping in her cot but the past 2 months she will not sleep. I do not want her to get use to sleeping on me/with me all the time because I feel there should be some time apart so she can get used to me not being beside her 24/7, even naps in her cot during the day only last 20 mins but if she is on me they last 2 hours, this is the only time i can get things done and the only alone time i have x

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