Evening routine for 8 o’clock bed time?

Pls no routines from people who’s kids are so young they still nap and such x

My son is 5 and normally isn't asleep until after 9pm no matter what I do. I would eat with him or wait until after he goes to bed at about 8.30pm to eat and chill. He's currently needing a lot of reassurance when going to bed either wanting me to stay with him or constantly calling me. Feel free to message me if you want to talk

My LO goes to bed around 9, sometimes 10 if we’re unlucky. He also used to be in bed for 6.30 so it was a massive shock and also frustrating as it means we have zero adult time but a friend told me to lean into it and I’d be less frustrated!

I try to keep the earlier part of the evening very busy so we play with lots of toys and he crawls/tries to walk everywhere. Then I put him in his high chair and we all make dinner together. Then we all eat dinner at the same time around 6.30 and that takes a while eating and cleanup. After clearing up we read some books until it’s time to go up and start bedtime routine.

Just put mine to bed now. Normally we finish work about 5-6 and aim to eat around 7:30 so that 1st part of the evening over. I like to wind down a bit after dinner, he plays either indoors or out, sometimes I let him have his ‘watch something’ or its bath time after that. Teeth brushing around 8:30. Bed around 9pm for him and then we’re asleep normally by 10-10:30. It actually doesn’t bother me most nights. Some nights we’re exhausted and I wish for a 7pm spot on routine. But reality we’d never see him if we didn’t. He gets up about 8 most mornings. It suits us. Things may change when it starts to get darker evenings again or when he starts school next year.

My boy has an 8-8.30pm bedtime - dinner as a family 6-6.30, play until 7.30, brush teeth and into pjs for 8 then settle into bed after that.

Mine has been tough to get to sleep for a long time, tbh. He consistently has 9-10 hours of sleep a night and just gets more and more tired as the week goes on. Yesterday he was horrendous so we took him for a drive in the car at 6pm so he'd fall asleep and we could transfer him. He's woken up full of beans as he's finally caught up. I don't want this to become a thing we have to do every now and then but it might be 😂

My ideal would be for him to be in his room by 8pm and he can do whatever he needs to do until he falls asleep. We've tried no toys, lots of toys, colouring books, quiet activities, audiobooks, music, meditation. Nothing works at the moment and he wants me with him until he drifts off.

So, not sure if that rambling was helpful but you're definitely not alone.

I wish I had a car so I could just drive around with him to sleep😭I’m tempted to go backwards and just stay in bed with him until he’s asleep so he’s not taking 3 hours :/

Is it bc it’s summer? The girls are going to bed way later now because it’s summer & no school so I feel like they’re not stimulated enough in the day to keep the school routine kinda bedtime haha..

They’re going to bed around 8:30 now and sleeping til 9:30am😂😂

But when they were still at school it was 7pm bed & 7am wake…

Winter though usually they’ll sleep 6:30pm and wake around 8am x

Also we still do a big lunch (around 2pm) and then for ‘dinner’ they have fruit, toast, cereal etc haha..

Then if they’re hungry before they actually go to sleep they’ll just help themselves to yoghurt or a bag of crisps or whatever x