Baby daddy drama

So my son's father and I have had a pretty rocky relationship. Toxic without a doubt. Ten minutes after my son was born he demanded a paternity test and treated me horribly because I said I wasn't going to force anyone to be in his life. There was constant drama between him and his mother that lead me to the decision of breaking it off and telling him to go. Eventually I got tired of him bullying me saying that everyone was calling me a whore so I got a paternity test. (Surprise surprise he was his). I tried making efforts to please his family by taking my son for visits and they treated me like I was the enemy. His mom insulted me and my mother. And then on bds birthday his pompo told me that he was going to call the state on me. The whole family was saying stuff like "I don't have any sympathy for her." Etc. I drove home crying (the drive was 2 hours.) recently I decided that I'm tired of it. I don't ever want to deal with that again. (Just so you get a good idea of what kind of mother I am, I don't drink, I don't do drugs, I don't smoke, I keep a close eye on my son, I live with my parents who are allowing me to raise him here until I decide to work, yes I have had a bit of depression and anxiety with this whole experience). Recently I've felt like the dad is pretending to be super nice. But he does backhanded things like breaking keepsakes, grabbing my arms so they bruise, and most recently sticking my toothbrush in the toilet because he knows that I'm protective of my dental care. He doesn't admit it though, it drives me nuts. I feel like he's trying to drive me insane. I've recently asked him for a week because I've been having terrible anxiety. I'm at the point of telling him to leave because I can't put up with it anymore, but I'm terrified that if I do he'll use that against me in court.... What do I do? Any advice?

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Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

Toddlers

How often are your toddlers asking for food? My oldest who is 3 just finished a whole plate of food and not even 10 minutes later he’s requesting more food. I know he’s going through a growth spurt, but how do you respond to this.

He has no respect for anything to do with me.

Husband and I decided to separate 3 days ago. I've been sleeping on the floor in the kids room, and we both have to stay in the same apartment for a while. He wont stop pushing little things and I am reaching my limit. Photos in comments

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..