Do you care about the color of baby items based on their gender?

I have a little boy. He's 10 months old. We've introduced foods. I ordered a pack of spoons on amazon in a hurry. I didn't notice 3 out of 6 spoons were pink. Is it weird that I only want my son to use the blue, green, and orange spoons?

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I don't think it matters tbh it's just a way to feed him.

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I could understand for clothes, but it's just a spoon. There will be plenty of toys with pinks or purples, and it because as KP. said it's more for learning

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My son loves pink & often chooses it when given the option! Colors are for everyone 💗

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Yes that's weird. And, one of the three that are 'pink' is purple 🤷‍♀️

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I let my daughter use all of them but she threw the blue one away... Like literally she kept throwing it in the trash along with the orange one. So I bought two packs and her little brother is getting the blue/orange ones now 😬

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I don't really care. I have this same pack that I've used for both boys (granted all but 2 have disappeared in the last few weeks...need to check MIL house 🙄)

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I'm an only girl with 3 brothers. They always had boy "stuff" and I always had girl "stuff". I guess I just want my son to use boy & boy colored stuff. Even if it's just a spoon. I know it sounds ridiculous when I say it/type it. Idk what my hang up is.

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I don’t care but his dad does! He has tried to throw his purple cup away 😆🙄

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It’s so weird. It’s colors. Colors exist. My son’s father chose the two pink plates out of a set of 6 colored plates we bought recently to be the ones with his name on it:🤷🏼‍♂️

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Not based on gender but blue psychologically suppresses hunger so we don’t use anything blue for feedings

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Based on your comment that you added on I don’t think it’s weird because that’s how you were raised. You had “girl things and colors” other generations were more strict about color coding genders. At the end of the day they’re colors that he’ll need to learn so why hide them from him? You also won’t be able to restrict him forever. One day he’ll become curious and want to use those things when he goes to school. You don’t want him to feel weird or lash out if he’s assigned a “girl” color for something because you never wanted him using them at home. Also, if you ever have a daughter will you restrict him from touching her bowls / spoons because they’re “girl colors” ? I don’t mean any of that in a rude way but just stuff to think about. I’m not telling you to throw some dresses on him but he can use some colorful spoons/plates, etc.

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My kids use/wear all colours.
We have cutlery with rainbows and with dinosaurs.

The gendering of colours and items is purely arbitrary.

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… it’s a spoon…. It doesn’t have gender

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purple, red, and peach not pink😜

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Yeh that’s a bit deep.. you’d have a meltdown if I told you my boy has a pink bear 😂

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I never cared about the color of things I expect my boys to be decent and strong whether they use a pink blue or gold spoon color does not matter

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My husband wore a pink suit to our friend’s wedding last weekend. He loves that suit and looks damn good in it. He also got lots of compliments by both men and women.

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Weird

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I’m the same 😂😂

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My son has a pink ball and a purple bike lol they are just colors at the end of the day, he wanted a pink ball and wouldn’t leave until we chose pink so pink is what we bought for him 💁🏻‍♀️😂

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For spoons I absolutely think it’s weird, Other things i understand. I only have girls so i usually buy them “girl” colors unless they specifically ask for other colors.

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That is incredibly weird! They are just colours and just spoons 🤷🏻‍♀️🫠

My daughter is quite girly and loves pink and purple but also blue, green and orange. She has a blue bike, wears boy pjs as they had dinos on etc. colours are just colours x

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I think it's weird, babies don't know or care and it's only society that says they are "girl" colours. Seen plenty of men's football teams play in pink though 🤷‍♀️

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Yes. Very weird.

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It’s very weird and you should probably do some work on why you feel like this before you pass this on to your child.

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Yes that’s weird.

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It’s just spoons and colors have nothing to do with gender.

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I think it’s a little strange. My sons who’s 5 now watches my little pony and plays with his sisters Barbie’s but this won’t change who he turns out to be. He also had these spoons as a baby x

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If you had a daughter would you let them use the blue spoons? 🤔

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Thanks for the feedback ladies!

For the sake of the conversation, for those of you saying color doesnt matter. Think back to when your son was an infant/ young enough not be able to express a preference, when you went to purchase items, for instance, a sippy cup, if the store had pink or blue as an option, were you more likely to select blue cup, if yes, why if color doesn't matter?

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Good point incognito tbh I tried to stick to neutral colours personally but out of the two I definitely would have chosen blue because he's a boy

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When my little girl was too young to express a preference, I bought things in any and all colours (as I would have if I had a boy) and, as a toddler, she now likes lots of different colours and doesn't look like a boring pink clone.

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Yes I think that’s weird. The only thing I care about is his clothes and like maybe his bike or stuff like that. But I mean as far as a spoon is concerned I don’t think anyone is going to be confused about his gender because he ate with a purple spoon. My son liked the color pink when he was like one. It’s a pretty color and I understood! Would I buy him pink girl shirts to wear? Hell no. But I would let him pick the pink crayon and the pink popsicle and the pink sticker.

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now you know that’s a lie. I agree spoons are just spoons and probably the darker pink one is supposed to be red anyways. But I think you know color definitely has to do with gender. Does your husband choose to buy a pink coffee cup with flowers? Or a hot pink phone case? Maybe a lilac steering wheel cover? I mean if he does that’s cool too but I doubt it.

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I think it’s weird too but as far as your comment goes it’s a lot more acceptable for a girl to wear Dino pjs than it is for a boy to wear Barbie ones.

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My daughter has blue, green, red plates and bottles. A blue lunchbox.

It literally doesn’t matter, she gets whatever she likes. Her sippy cup has tractors on it 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Trust me when they get to toddler age and go through 5 million snacks and 10,000 spoons a day you will need all of them and won't care about the colour 😂😂😂. Plus it's a really great way of teaching them colours, I ask my daughter what colour spoon she wants with things. They honestly go through so much cutlery it's ridiculous 😂😂😂😂

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I agree! We have those munchkin spoons; melted one, lost a few, found one inside the sofa. Kids go through things so fast and I’m forever hunting them down 😂

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maybe! I’m not sure I wouldn’t even bat an eye at a boy wearing barbie pjs or a princess tshirt 🤷🏻‍♀️

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A spoons a spoon doesn’t mater the colour of it does the job it’s meant to do , I mean my son has a purple cup as it was £4 cheaper than the blue one of the same style same with his formula pots they were 2 for £8 and one if different shades of pink. It did they job and I saved money on them

He also has pink spotty bibs because they came in a pack with ten others , I’m not gonna use something just because of a colour

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I appreciate all the discourse, ladies. I have a slightly different perspective now.

I'll approach it as a way for him to learn his colors as opposed to assigning the color to a gender.

I will, however, admit that until he is able to voice a preference, I'll likely gravitate toward items that are not pink for him. But I'll fully support his preference of colors/patterns when he is older.

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@Carly that's why I placed an amazon order in a hurry!! He was going through so many spoons! LOL

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@Lisa I feel like it's more acceptable for girls to wear any color. Not as acceptable for pink on boys.

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@Gia thank you for your comment. Completely understand and agree. Yours and other comments have given me a different perspective for sure. 😊

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Its super traditional to raise kids with strict gender roles, and that’s important to some families. Pink and blue are longstanding signifiers of gender. My husband’s closet has more pink in it than mine and im known to rock vintage men’s clothes. It would be super weird for us to raise our daughter in really traditional expression of femininity. It wouldn’t align with our personal values. Her wardrobe consists of girls, boys & unisex clothes. We have always just picked stuff we like the aesthetic of rather than being like, “oh she needs a pink onesie because she’s a girl.” We try to give her a lot of options to explore who she is and what she likes rather than put her in a box. I wouldn’t think a pink spoon would make your son less of a boy, rather expose him to a lot of colors and options in learning to be confident with who he is.

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I never worry about colour, unless it’s clothes but he’s never complained about girl pyjamas at sleepovers, when he was learning to walk he preferred a doll and pram and has deffo had pink dummy’s/ bottles etc when we’ve been desperate! My son likes pink it’s just a colour to him and he’s very much a boy as he reminds me 😂 x

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Eh babies don't care what color the spoon is that feeds them. My baby boy uses lots of pink things because he has an older sister. He does have his own boy clothes though. My husband didn't want his boy wearing ruffles, or pink

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It’s not weird I’m the same way I only let me son use the blue green and purple or orange spoon .

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