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How many times has your husband or significant other messed up in your relationship.

I’m just curious if other couples also have issues.

& to be clear not like messing up in the house or something I’m saying a mess up revolving another person maybe not cheating but just something they shouldn’t be doing

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Well one time my bf moved schools and was friends with these 2 girls. Didn’t cheat but definitely made me uncomfortable by hanging out at his house. That’s the only time, about 2 years ago

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One time my husband told his ex he would pick her up from the airport 😂 this was in the first few months of our marriage he was such an idiot but never did anything like that again

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1 and only time so far 🤞.....he was snap chatting with an old friend (female for reference) of his from when he was like 14/15yrs old. Well that'd be fine except.......he was sending pictures of himself without a shirt on! In the 9+ yrs we've been together (4yrs at that particular time) he has never and I mean never sent me so much as a collarbone picture! He claimed it was innocent. But I don't think it was. I told him not to do it again, no matter how innocent u might think it is. Bc the pics the girl was sending...hahaha yeah she was hoping for more. While I believe he may have thought they were innocent, she def didn't. And the only reason why I even saw their chat back n forth, was bc I was setting up his phone. His old one shit the bed, and he has zero patience when it comes to setting up phones or any technology, so I do it. He hasn't done anything like that since. Do I still suspect he's doing stuff? Sometimes when he's on his phone and quickly puts it away. 🤦🏼‍♀️ But, I love him.

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Been with my husband for over 7 years and he has never done anything even close to being an issue, ever. I was in a terrible (and dangerous) relationship before, so I would have not stayed if he was messing around in anyway. Did that once, couldn’t pay me to do it again.
I should add, our first year together I was 600 miles away from him AND he travels 3 days a week all over the US for 40 weekends a year. I have never even felt a “tickle” on my radar that something might be wrong. We take marriage very seriously and follow many of the “traditional” roles in our household and life.
(Not gloating or anything, just giving you an overview of our relationship since everyone is a little different and context clues are very important)

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Here’s my problem, we’re going on 10 years together & a few months ago he was texting some girl about a FaceTime call (for sexy time) & I of course got mad & he told me he never actually had a call or paid her but come to find out he paid her & she sent him nudes & throughout our time together there has been other minor issues but we were also very young (we are high school sweethearts) & I just don’t want to be that stupid girl

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I saw a picture of an old couple, and the caption said "I wonder how many times they have had to forgive one another." For the most part, we chose what we want to work through as we all have flaws ❤️ I've been married going on 10 years and we have had our equal share of amazing, beautiful moments just as much as the agonizing, hard moments.

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Probably twice or three times. We temporarily broke up over it.

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My Partner of 9years I'm 23 with 2kids, Has cheated once (6years)ago messed up financially & abit more. Personally for me as everyone is different is, It is what it is I'm not the type of female to dwell on something knowing it called put me at a stand still. Just move forward. Also just think about this. Whether the day comes or not. If you have had more good times then bad then stay with him. Those good times will still keep coming I'm also counting the small things also.

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So many females these days are so quick to leave when something goes bad to why relationships don't work out.

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