Need some distraction/help/positive vibes

I'm feeling so down right now.. This is my second time around and really aiming for a VBAC but idk if I'm even dilating or if these pains are contractions..
I had my 38 week appt yesterday and was told they will do a cervical check and membrane sweep next week. But I put myself down, thinking this is just not going to go my way. Like, should I just give up on the idea and schedule a c-section? I can't be induced because of the previous c-section.
So, if anyone else is going through the same thing or simply available to talk, please message 🙏🏻

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I am 36 weeks. I had my appt yesterday and my baby is breech. My first 2 babies were delivered vaginally. I am terrified of the idea of having a csection. But my dr. Said by 37 week if my baby doesn't turn she wants me to schedule a csection. I am gonna do what's best for baby and I, but the thought of csection is very scary to me trying to talk to myself and tell myself it's okay.

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I honestly have this exact same issue going on. So discouraged because I've been doing all the things to try and dilate or self induce and nothing is happening. I want a VBAC so badly but my body isnt cooperating with me. My next appointment is at 38w5d and I just know I'm going to hear an induction date or c section date same as last time. Honestly don't want another failed induction so if they say baby has to come out I'll just opt for a c section but seeing as this is my last pregnancy ever it sucks to miss out a natural vaginal birth :(

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I’m also going for a vbac and my body is not cooperating. Baby is head down but isn’t dropping into my pelvis, has his hand above his head and is trying to come out with the back of his neck. I’ll be 39 weeks on Monday and as of this past Monday, I’m still not dilated at all. I had a c section scheduled for the 30th bc up until 36 weeks, he was breech. So basically after my appt on the 29th, my doc and I have to decide right then on how to go on.

I will say, I asked in the c section group how a scheduled c section is different than a spontaneous/emergency one and soooo many women say their 2nd c section was so peaceful compared to the first. Keep in mind, my first c section was an emergency and I ended up in the hospital for a total of 12 days due to complications 🙃 I am NERVOUS but also at peace knowing I know what to expect this next time!

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@Corinne you've got this! Do any exercises that feel comfortable

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@Tasha yes! I'm not sure if this is my last, but to think, if it is, I want to experience the natural stuff!

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@Paige that actually does help. Never thought about it that way. Thank you for sharing.
My last was because of pre-eclampsia but so far my blood pressure has been good so not worried about that, yet.

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my first was because he was stuck in my birth canal! My friend is also an l&d nurse and she’s assured me that a scheduled c section is like night and day for them, too. Which I find very comforting! You set the tone, play music, have skin to skin, all the things you could do during a vaginal birth! I grieved not having a vaginal birth for a lonnnng time after my first so I totally understand where you’re coming from.

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