Toxic living situation

My daughter’s father is unemployed and lives with me I’ve been paying all his bills for 10+ years. I finally snapped when I couldn’t cover our bills for this month and asked him to get just a part time job and he blew up at me and told me I was irresponsible for keeping my child if I couldn’t take care of her. I told him I am done with him I’m at my breaking point and want out of relationship asked him to leave. The good side: he loves his little girl and wants to be there for her. However, he wants to continue LIVING WITH ME rent free in order to see her. He does help take care of her when I have to work late or when she’s sick and needs to stay home from daycare which is helpful but this is so toxic for me and will be for baby girl when she is older. He’s a lot bigger than me and insists on staying making threats that he will take the baby away if I kick him out and tell everyone that I am crazy since I struggled with some mental health issues in the past. I take care of my daughter though i do everything for her and pay for her daycare while he sits around all day. I just feel stuck and need some advice.

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He needs to leave or you do . Go to a family solicitor and get advice .

Bwoyyyyy 10+ yearss😳😳😳, and wait did he have the audacity to call you irresponsible for not being able to cover his grown ass bills?? It sounds like he is the one with metal health issues here babes, because why are you are grown us men not working and providing for your family in 10 years?? Unless he physically can’t?

He always made this big deal about how he could have gotten a job if he wanted but chose a non-materialistic lifestyle because he’s happier just enjoying his life. And it’s true he never asked for fancy things but cost of living and bills and everything comes at the expense of others. I was blinded because I really cared about him but now I realized how stupid I was. I just want better for my daughter now and I have to get us out of this situation somehow

I’m not sure why some people are so entitled. I’ve done everything for him for years and I ask for help once just for him to pay his own bills and all he does is say awful things about me.

I wish I had money to get some help but I don’t so thanks to you ladies for letting me vent ❤️

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