When does “normal’ish” life resume

I’m under no illusion that my life will ever be the same again, which I’m so excited about. But when does life start to adjust to some degree of normality? My twins are 5 months old and my entire day revolves around either soothing them to sleep (4 naps a day) or entertaining them to prevent them from becoming bored, overwhelmed or crying. I can’t help but compare to singleton mums who are out and about, or have baby in a sling getting on with life. I get out for one walk a day then generally at home on my own all day. I hate to say it but it feels so laborious at times. It wouldn’t be so bad if I had time at home to bake or garden, but it doesn’t happen.

I’ve tried the twin sling, one of them hates it and the same one hates being in the car. I don’t have the car five days a week when partner is at work, live rurally with no friends of family local.

I absolutely love my twins and in no way want my old life back, but long for a little variation.

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I always lived in city and been out and about since week 1.
But 9 months were my highlight, it is when they sit unassisted and start becoming really funny little humans. 🤩 They are now 14months old and the bessssst!!! Looking back ta it, first 6 months were the most hard and laborious and juts same and same

Yeah when they're done with bottles, at 3 meals and 2 snacks a day, and only 1 nap it definitely gets a little bit easier. But also I can only do things from 10am-2pm or 5pm-8pm to work around their nap 🤣🤣 they're 16m old now, I still only leave the house once a week to go see my mom

Ladies, thank you so much for sharing your experiences and advice. It’s really helped me manage my expectations and look forward too all of what is to come.

You’re great, thank you! ❤️

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