How to multi task??

I just don't get it. I'm at a total loss, I must be missing something. I've got an almost 3 year old and 6 month old. ANZ recently I feel like my toddler is wanting my attention alllll the time. She literally takes up most of time ( I know this is normal but hear me out). It's taken me all day to do 1 load of laundry and tidy my bedroom... because my toddler cannot entertain herself. Between her and the baby I just cannot get anything done! And I know cleaning / chores will always get left behind when you've got kids but I really can't function in mess. It affects my mental state so badly. I've tried to set up activities and get toddler to play independently but she gets bored so easily and wants a playmate which is always me. I used to be able to do a full clean of the house on weekends but now I'll be lucky to get just 1 room done. Is this normal? If anyone is able to clean more pleaseee tell me how 😭😭🙏🙏

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I feel you and I only have a 7 month old 😅

If she gets bored easily perhaps she's actually quite smart and needs challenging activities to keep her entertained. Have you tried puzzles? Not the easy baby ones, a puzzle of her interest (tv character, get a custom one made of her? Or a family pic?) with smaller (not too small ofc) pieces that would take her longer to complete? Or any problem solving activities? Maze booklet? Memory games? Shape sorter toys?

What activities are you currently giving her now to entertain her?

Another suggestion - can she do the cleaning activities with you? Put pillows on bed/couch, put clothes in laundry basket, or even purchase a cheap pair of those socks where she can walk around the house and collect dust?

Do you have a pet? Would you consider maybe getting a fish, rabbit, or a safe animal she can watch/feed/play with etc?

Again, I only have a 7 month old but this is what I'd do! 🤷🏻‍♀️

I second this with the challenging activity or the have her help with cleaning. Heck if you said can you help mommy do this and have her do one thing in one room, like gather up her clothes in a hamper or toys in a room she’s done playing in. Even taking laundry from an adult to put in the dryer or taking things out of the dryer and pushing the basket on the floor. Possibly even teaching her to fold the simpler items/hang clothes on hangers. Matching the socks all up.

Only have a one year old who is super active and needs our attention all the time. I get her to help. She loves doing laundry, loading and unloading the clothes. While she does that (takes ages hahaha) I usually clean the kitchen or load the dishwasher. If I need her to stay in place I put her in her cot/play pen with some books or the music on so I can hoover. She also has some wooden puzzles.

Maybe try age appropriate puzzles/books or give her some tasks like tidying up her room.

I'm at the point of my day in which I can't even make myself a decent meal because I'm so overwhelmed by the mess. I just wish a cleaning fairy can come and help me after I try to do a yard sale with a 13mo (highly DO NOT recommend) all alone. I don't have a spouse to help me with all this. I don't have one at all. Just my baby and I

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

Nursery lunches?

My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

I live in a small 2 bedroom flat. How do I keep my home smelling nice?

Especially bedroom considering dirty laundry lives in there too. I do laundry once a week because I don’t use enough to do more frequent.
But I just want my room smelling nice and cosy.

The more natural the method the better ladies 😣
I open windows everyday. I don’t get enough sunlight for plants 😭

FTM

Hello,
FTM here. At what age do you stop applying cream on nappy area during nappy changes? My 2 year old boy isn’t toilet ready yet but uses both nappy pants/pull ups and regular diapers