Boyfriend treats intimacy like a chore.
Most times we both enjoy being intimate in the bedroom. It never lasts long but I never complained, I felt like her loved me and I was just happy with that. But recently, well not even recently. Yesterday, we had gotten almost done and he stopped to go to the restroom. I always ask if he enjoyed it cause mostly I cannot tell. And he says he didn’t finish and I was shocked. He always does. Then he said: “I don’t care enough. I don’t care about finishing.” In my head that translated to “I was just doing it to shut you up about asking and got it over with.” That hurt the worst to think he doesn’t like it and it’s a chore. I have told him that I don’t want bedroom intimacy anymore cause I’m uncomfortable, and he said that’s fine. ☹️
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He could just enjoy you getting pleasure. Talk to him.
if that was the case would he not have just explained that and not said he was fine doing nothing at all..
but maybe he felt awkward and ‘that’s fine’ was just a defensive response maybe?
To the original poster - Possibly he was having an off day and is stressed about something? and didn’t want to talk about it/explain himself and that was an easy answer to avoid it and avoid a potential argument? Maybe bring it up again and ask him why all of a sudden he feels he doesn’t care about it..maybe when he doesn’t feel on the spot about it you’ll hopefully get a better response 🤞🏼
not always. Men don’t like communicating. My husband didn’t tell me that he didn’t care about getting off, I had to initiate the convo. Hence why I said talk to him.
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