Stopping rocking

I can’t believe how hard it is to get my LO to sleep now that he’s too heavy to rock him. It was already hard with the rocking but now even more so.

I usually end up rocking him for a few seconds when he’s so exhausted that his eyes are shut but he can’t for the life of him get his self to sleep but before getting to that point he’s literally crawling all over me, trying to jump off the bed, moaning and groaning.

I know his wake windows are long enough bc he’s showing all the cues that he’s tired and I know not all babies can self settle but it’s like he finds it hard to settle even with me there, anyone relate , any advice?

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Have you tested giving him another half an hour? My daughter shows sleepy cues (face rubbing mostly) from 4 hours, but actually she needs at least a 4.5 hour wake window to actually go to sleep at night. Otherwise she's the same, rolling about and wanting to play.

Still rocking (my baby is hysterical if you put him down awake) but have you tried holding baby on your front under their bum legs on either side of you as if they’re in the baby carrier and rocking that way? I’ve found it to be much kinder on my back!

I did try this for a while but it just resulted in him being overtired and being even more upset, I realised I have to put him down for his naps even when he doesn’t want to or he’d just stay up all day whilst being upset 😂

Granted I feed to sleep but I also do laying him on his side and rhythmic bum pats for transfer attempts. Stroking face from crown of head to eyebrow. Sitting on birth ball to rock in circles. I rock him while feeding but with my back against the headboard of our bed and his weight is mainly on my thighs, bum on one thigh, and neck resting on my elbow supported by my other knee. Its my legs doing all the swaying and it's not so taxing on the back. When he wakes up and won't feed back and I have to sit on the birth ball to rock him I sometimes feel like crying 😵‍💫🙈 happened this week as he's been ill and I played this music video on the TV, it gets gradually darker. Did a little sensory play we sat in the dark and we have this light projector that projects stars on the ceiling so I was pointing it at the floor moving closer further away and spinning. It's so relaxing to look at.

yup I’ve tired this! He allows it for a few seconds but then tried to crawl away 😭

After that I was also so relaxed and once he was ready to feed to sleep again I was sleepy and calm despite how irritating a 2am wake window is
https://youtu.be/LdQJw5S4nAQ?feature=shared

was there any kind of process for her to be okay with this? As soon as I put my LO in his cot he stands up, so I put him to sleep in my bed then transfer to him cot

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

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I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

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i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔