Struggle to gey child to sleep

My 4 year old over the last month I have a big battle to Trying to gey her to sleep I have her screaming ans shouting and getting told she dose not want me any more she wants some one else where there is no one else.i scared that some one will report us due to how bad she is each night I spend most night in tears cos I feel I have failed as a mum to her

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You’re definitely not a failure as a momma 🩷 this is just a phase and it will pass. My baby who’s only 10 months will sometimes get so tired of me too, it’s natural and doesn’t mean they don’t love us. We’re our babies whole world, I’m sorry you don’t have much support but maybe a change in the bed time routine could help. Sending love

I tired every think I can think of calm down time worh story and a cuddle laying in the bed with her calming music in the room small light as she hates dark rooms

My 4yo daughter likes to fall asleep with the lights on. I come in and turn them off after she's asleep. When she's not screaming, does she say anything else is bothering her? Is she adjusting to a new school/preschool schedule? Does she have meltdowns like this in other situations or is this particularly intense? If she falls asleep but wakes up in the dark, will she stay in bed or go to you? Can she lay in a dark room, with you right there? Maybe you could get her nice and tired and leave her lights on with a picture book to look at. Maybe she could fall asleep on the couch while you read or do paperwork and you could transfer her into bed asleep until things calm down a bit.

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

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How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope

Sleep

My baby is now 8 months and we have a sleep problem.. he refused to sleep during the day , I need to rock him for about 40min then have break and try again even though he's clearly tired , sometimes he doesn't have the last nap because it is impossible to put him down. For the last few nights he wakes up every hour with cry and most of the day looks tired. I was at the GP and everything seems fine. Don't know what to do anymore. Does anyone have the same issue? How to deal with it?