Am I the asshole

Today is mine and my boyfriends anniversary. Right at midnight last night I gave him his gift. Today he ran out to get me a plant and some flowers. When he gave them to me he said he felt like he had to after I gave him a gift. I mentioned how he got me 2 things I had wanted last week and he said "yeah but I just said they were anniversary gifts. They werent". He didn't do anything for my birthday so I thought he might plan something for today. Not a thing was planned. It was just another day of cooking, cleaning, and raising our kid. He even took a mid day nap while I cleaned. I thought he'd at least order supper so I didn't have to cook that. He refused, and instead said he wanted chicken so he went to the store to buy some chicken breast for me to cook. He came home with 3 breasts. Enough for him and our 4 year old to eat. I cooked it and served them then just took a shower because I was to hungry to watch them eat. He's now asking why I'm upset and I don't know how to answer. I also asked if we could maybe have some intimate time tonight and he got almost upset because he was "so exhausted" and we just did it 2 weeks ago. He doesn't work right now and we haven't been intimate in over a month.... am I an asshole for being heartbroken and upset? What do I say to him?

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Ew…he sounds down right awful? He was too exhausted from what? His midday nap? And to not even get enough food to feed you is just disrespectful. Honestly I would copy and paste this post and send it to him as a respond bc how is he gonna even ask after all that?

fr if he’s not working, feeding YOU, fxing you, and taking care of you properly than wtf is he doing

also agree ^^

Hes not a mind reader. Talk to him.

Ohhh hell nah you are not the AH. On special events like that Hubby goes above and beyond to make my day feel special. So much, that on Fathers Day I bought him a pair of Lacoste and took him out to fine dining and I was still asking him days later did he have a good day, he assured me he certainly did but I still felt I was lacking compared to what he gives me. You deserve so much more. Even asking for intimacy? Wow. Mines never too tired, too exhausted, for intimacy here I can feel him up at 4am and he’ll be happy to reciprocate and he does. Hence we have sex 2-3* a week. My man would not be happy w sex once a fortnight and neither am I. I can’t believe a man would expect you to cook on your anniversary 🤦🏻‍♀️

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