Softplay rant

I took my 1 year old to soft play today and we were in the 0-3 section. There 2 boys who looked 8 and 10 and they were in the baby section and were wreaking havoc!! They were throwing those big cubes and circles and one nearly had the audacity to raise it at my little one till I said so let’s not do that. They were throwing things, jumping on each other, playing so rough, I even saw one shove a 2 year out the way and their mum was sat at a table nose deep on her phone. Other mums were getting uncomfortable as well. It really pissed me off because there’s evidently a big kid area which is huge compared to the little baby section and they kept ruining everything for the little ones. Their mum finally came when they started hogging all the soft toys in the corner and just jumping from the top of the slide down to the bottom (that’s how big they were - they could literally jump from the top of the slide to the bottom)!! Wish the mum was considerate for the other parents 😤😤

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This always happens to us at big soft plays, the mums just sit chatting and the kids cause chaos but I’ve also told the parents before when they’ve tried hurting other kids and they never care and just laugh, so frustrating

I know it's really awkward but sometimes you have to speak up. If it makes it easier maybe speak to staff x

This happened to me too I took my 11month old little girl and a kid nearly stood on her head !

Happened so many times with my little one at soft plays too. I normally just move my baby to the "safest" area and if they're still coming too close and potentially gonna hurt him chucking stuff I just say to them, their parents or staff about it being the baby area. It's super annoying tho xo

I had this experience last time I went. Parent literally just letting their two children take over the baby section and it was annoying as although LO was free because of his age me and his dad had to pay a crazy price. Kids not listening and I ended up taking him into the bigger area that was empty

That's bad that the staff weren't stepping in either.
There's a good soft play we sometimes go to and the staff aren't shy about kicking bigger kids out of the baby area - they only let in older siblings who are playing with their baby siblings.

This winds me up so much at soft play! I don't understand the mentality of the mums who just let their older kids wreak havoc in the baby bit!

I’ve had this before when I’ve taken the child to their mother (whilst holding my LO) and explained to their mother what they’ve been doing and how it’s not appropriate

You have to advocate for your baby in these situations. They will soon be at the age where they learn from parents, they really do copy everything you do. If they see you being assertive with other children and parents, standing up for what’s right, they’ll do the same. I was at a soft play with my now almost 3 years old old daughter when she was tiny and some older boys were throwing ball pit balls at her head and I was very stern with them then found out who their mum was and asked her to remove them from the baby area and she did exactly that. She didn’t make them apologise which annoyed me but she made them tidy up the area (as they’d thrown balls everywhere) then left. She looked embarrassed but some don’t care at all.

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?

BLW Advice!

Did anyone else baby have a hard time with textures when it pertains to solids. My son is 9 months and he still only eats the food that is mashed or puree. Do you think this is a phase? Or does anyone have any tips?

Toddler snacks in the morning ?

Hey.

My 14m is clearly going through a growth spurt. He’s a fussy eater but recently started having two breakfasts with the childminder and that’s even after milk in the morning.

He wakes at 6am and we leave around 7:05am. Has 6oz when he wakes but then is seemly hungry looking for snacks before we leave. The only issue is, he’s a fussy eater and won’t sit and eat fruit etc so struggling to think what I can give him that’s suitable.

Any fussy eater suitable ideas of what I can make or get him to snack on whilst we finish getting ready to get out the door?