Opinions please! Husband stag do

Hi everyone, looking for some advice as a first time mum to be. My husband’s best friend is having a stag do abroad next year for three nights around two weeks before my due date. He isn’t pushy about going at all and is aware that it’ll take some consideration. We have a dog (Cockapoo, high energy) that I would have to look after while he’s gone. I do have good support from family and friends. Do you think he should go? This is my first pregnancy so not sure what to expect from myself around this time. I’m swaying towards no, especially with it being abroad but opinions would be welcomed!

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Honestly I don't think he should go! That's too close to your due date imo

I think you’re right. Thanks for your honest opinion!

My partner wouldn't have gone, after the 37 weeks in last pregnancy he didn't even drink if he was out for the evening in case something happened as he'd need to drive us to the hospital.
He'd probably spend the whole time worrying about you anyway and struggle to enjoy it.

We said no to anything like that 4 weeks before my due date and weirdly enough my waters went 36+3!

So I would say definitely not, he would never forgive himself if you went into labour, flights were delayed etc and he missed the birth

Our friend has a stag do the month after baby is here and my husband said no before even mentioning it to me because he doesn’t want to leave me with two children 1 month after birth! X

Absolutely not that close to due date - with my first whilst we didn’t go into labour until 39 weeks there were multiple appointments approaching the due date that needed both of us to be present and make decisions at (all fine. But I would have hated being alone)
Also have a dog and trust me when I say at 38 weeks you are gonna find walking them hard ! 🤣💕

My husband and I have agreed no trips at all during this pregnancy. Obvs I’m an exception but I ended up having my son on a Friday at 26 week gestation but my husband was due to go to Amsterdam with friends on the Monday. We thought there would be no issues given how far we were from my due date (09/08 vs 10/11)

My husband has been invited to an abroad stag in April (so about a month after my due date) and he's said he can't go. His friend completely understood. This is our first baby too so I wasn't sure either but I don't want him to go away so soon after the baby is born 😂 I think 2 weeks before the due date is too close. Your baby could arrive early or you might need his support at that time xx

Thanks everyone! We’re both now a bit like ‘what were we thinking?’ 😂 he definitely will sit this one out!

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Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

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So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

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