Hormonal issues and struggles with postpartum please help

Please help 🥲 my daughter is 1.5 years old now and I’m still feeling as if I have postpartum depression and anxiety? My libido is non existent, I feel very drained and tried all the time even with a full nights rest. My anxiety is through the roof I don’t trust my in-laws to be alone with her much I’ve been called a helicopter mom more than I can count and all in all I just don’t feel like -me- anymore. I know a lot of these changes come with the job but something just doesn’t feel right? I’m worried maybe my hormones never balanced out but I don’t know if that’s a thing? I’m taking Prozac and it’s helping a little but I just have no motivation other than fueling anxiety if that makes sense. I do everything for her every day and I love it but my relationship with my husband is rocky because I just don’t want to be intimate even though I do ??? I’m breaking out a ton. Hair is falling out. Stressed all the time. I know all of this I pushed through at first because I was prepared for postpartum as much as anyone can be but I feel like this is too long after to still be that? Please if anyone can share tips or thoughts on what might be wrong. I am trying to be the best mom I can be I just don’t feel like me

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Girl… did I write this because I’m 100% on the same boat as you and completely lost on what else to do. I’ve been taking so many holistic things to try and help for 6+ months and nothing is helping 😭 I’ve even started doing breath work and meditation and it’s helps with some things like my anxiety but my libido and weight is still struggling HARD. I work out 4-5 times a week and avoid any kind of garbage foods too… Hormones are the worst!! Just letting you know you’re not alone and hopefully it all evens out soon

yes thank you!!! I’ve tried I feel most of the supplements to help and they just don’t I’ll definitely try breathing exercises to help calm me down and oh gosh I NEED to pick up working out more! I’m starting at just daily walks but I feel so out of it because I’ll be whipped at the end of it and in my head I’m screaming “girl it’s a WALK” 😭 thank you so much for replying it really is nice to know it’s not just me 😭🤍

I’ve struggled with several of these issues in the past. My guess is you’re getting minimal help from your doctor? If so, here’s my thoughts:
- go see an endocrinologist to get checked for thyroid issues. Oftentimes GPs aren’t properly trained to identify full thyroid issues as they only look at select markers in bloodwork. This could be a contributor to the tiredness.
- find a board certified naturopath physician or a functional medicine doctor that has good reviews and you like. It sounds like adrenal fatigue could also be something you’re dealing with. Traditional doctors don’t acknowledge adrenal fatigue but I can say from experience it is 110% real and after I got proper treatment my life changed for the better. You will unfortunately spend a lot of money up front to see these doctors initially as they don’t take insurance, but your health is 10000% worth the investment.
- consider regular acupuncture treatments for anxiety. Go to a reputable place and follow their protocols.

I got cutoff before due to length. Anyways:
- acupuncture: this eliminated my anxiety when I went all in and committed to it. I went weekly for a month and then tapered off gradually. Also cutting alcohol helps tremendously with anxiety.
- I don’t know you at all so could be totally off here (in which case disregard) but if you have any history of trauma or childhood trauma consider getting emdr therapy as that’s a total game changer to recover from it.
I’ve been in your shoes and I wish you the best in getting well! A proper naturopath/functional medicine doctor will be your best next step. You CAN heal if you believe you can and you’re willing to put in the work. The book “a mind of your own” by Kelly Brogan changed my life and allowed me to heal from chronic depression and I’ve been depression free / no meds for 4 years since following her protocol.

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I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeding to sleep

FTM here! 👋

Are you guys feeding your baby to sleep?

I just read feeding to sleep is creating bad habit and baby will always cry etc when awake at night expecting to get bottle before falling asleep again. 🤔
It said should feed the baby, give a bath (or not) and then put to sleep.
I do other way around - bath, pjs/lotion, rock to sleep and feed at the same time and then baby falling asleep.
Am I creating a bad habit? Been doing it all the time really. 😳

Feeds

How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope