Low confidence and just feeling so alone

I hate my body, I never used to.. I used to think I could do with loosing some weight but never felt like I hated my body until I found out my partner was watching 🌽 behind my back even though we had set boundaries in our relationship against the use of it. Partly because it’s cheating to me and also because you never know who you are watching (they could have been forced into it).

I found out when I was 6-7 months pregnant and the only thing I could think at the time was how I suddenly hated the sight of my stomach and what pregnancy was doing to it (I also felt so guilty for feeling this way because I used to love my bump). One of the things he said to me after I found out was that he ā€œlikes slimmer body typesā€ and this destroyed me. We have been together for 11yrs and both our body’s have changed obviously and I never once had an issue with him gaining a bit of weight…

Im 7months pp now and when I look at myself in the mirror I cry. I hate myself so much and this is something I’ve never had to deal with because I always thought I was enough for him. I want to get surgery and change my body completely but don’t have the money to do that and know I won’t be able to look after my little one while I recover.

I just don’t know how to love myself anymore, has anyone got any advice? I feel like I’m drowning

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Awwwww Pooh I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. I think the first step is showing gratitude to your body for getting your through pregnancy and birth. Next, try some shape wear and start working out. Do it FOR YOU!! And show yourself grace. I’m here if you need to chat more šŸ«¶šŸ¼ā¤ļø

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All I will say is: love your body for you and not anybody else.
I used to date a bodybuilder, I weighed about 7.5 stone and was a size 4-6… i did it for him and he never complimented me. I struggled for a long time. I’ve since met my amazing husband that has made me love myself.

Could you get some therapy?
Or begin some self-care regiments? Positive affirmations? List what you love about yourself including things that aren’t on your appearance?

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Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

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