Loneliness

I know this is somewhat airing out my drama but sometimes I just need someone to vent to. For the majority of the time, I feel okay, but other days can be very sad and lonely. My baby’s father decided to block me when I was about 3 months pregnant because he decided he didn’t want to be a dad anymore. I’m currently 6 months along and just wish that I could move on. However, I can’t help but wish that he was thinking about me as much I thought about him. We were together for a year and had a loving relationship until things turned when I told him I was pregnant. He started treating me awfully and some of the things he did and said are unforgettable. It’s weird though because the part that hurts the most is that he abandoned me, surprisingly not the brutal things that he used to say to me. I’m just praying I can move forward sooner than later because I know that he doesn’t care for me in the way that I do for him. 😕

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I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m recently a SAHM full-time and get lonely as well. I can imagine how devastating that is to be abandoned during your pregnancy. 😞

Thank you, I really do appreciate it. I’ve found that the only way to truly get through it is allowing myself to cry and feel sad when I need to. I really tried to ignore the sadness that I felt for a long time, to where everyone around me was telling me that I’m “so strong” and “handle things so well” but I definitely don’t feel that way on the inside. 😕

So sorry this is happening to you! Hopefully things turn around for you, if you have family close by lean on them for everything they can be a great support system.

I have been here for about a year and still miss my family and friends from back home so much

But with love it takes a while to move on from hopefully he at least reaches out to make sure you’re doing ok

I'm so sorry you are going through this mama. It is so unacceptable for a man to abandon his child and mother of his child like that. He helped create this life and has an obligation to help. I wish I could give you a hug. You are so wonderful for keeping the baby and already a good mother. I'm not the best at replying (sahm to a rambunctious 1 year old) but shoot me a chat and I'm happy to listen. I too have been abandoned by so many men when I needed them. Not your exact situation but I do get it on some level.

It's good that you're letting yourself cry. It stimulates all kinds of helpful chemicals like dopamine, oxytocin and most of all endorphins. You sound so strong and will get through this. ❤️

He's missing out on the best experience of being a part of a family and that's not your fault! As confusing and disappointing as what happened is right now, everything happens for a reason. I hope you have a support system and if not we are here! There's also Colorado Springs Baby Mamas on Facebook! A great community of mamas who always come together for anything you need. You are not alone! 🩷

My family has definitely been a great help and they’re very supportive. I just feel bad always leaning on them because I don’t want them to get annoyed with me being sad all the time. 😥

Thank you, I appreciate it. ❤️ I’ve been relying on my family a lot during this time. I truly hope everything turns around for me one day and I find someone much better for me. I always try to remind myself that he’s the one missing out on my child’s life and I’m not. 😕

The feeling of overwhelming people with sad is so hard. I absolutely feel that way with my PPD/PPA and my husband.

I'm glad you have support! And don't feel guilty about leaning on them! They love you and love your baby.

Message me if you want to talk ever😊

Just know once baby’s here you will never be alone again! Baby’s gonna give you so much love and strength you’ve never felt before! I can’t believe people are still doing that in 2024 he will reap his karma, you got this mama!

You can message me if you wanna vent or talk or whatever. Sending love ❤️
You’ll get through this babe

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Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

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We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

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Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
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I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

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