Partner says hurtful things about bf/pumping

I'm also a woman married to another woman - that is awful of your wife. Actually horrible behaviour and you shouldn't have to put up with that. She should be your number 1 support

Stand your ground x

I haven’t experienced this but just wanted to say that this is horrible. BF is exhausting and definitely a time we need uplifting not putting down! You’re doing an amazing job, it’s not easy and it has so many great benefits for your baby so don’t let this put you off. I suggest you sit down together and really try to explain to her how this is making you feel. Good luck and sending love x

Wtf!! SO disappointing that she is acting this way as a birth mom herself 😡

Breastfeeding is more beneficial to your baby and her being jealous of you being able to stick to breastfeeding is just diabolical, manipulative and selfish!!
She’s not acting like a partner AT ALL!! She’s acting like a creepy and jealous MIL 😳

I think I’d throw the first punch if those were things I repeatedly heard.

Firstly this is horrible, I hope you’re okay and honestly you’re doing something amazing for your baby.

It sounds to me like perhaps she’s jealous/ triggered by your choices and feels maybe a little guilty she didn’t breastfeed your first child? I think it’s also easy for people to feel like you’re ’taking something from them’ because they can’t feed baby but they forget babies bond in so many ways and feeding is just a small part of that x

Thank you for all the supportive comments. Your kindness and words have helped me understand that my feelings are valid. ❤️

yes, it was 100% her choice. She tried for a day or two and then decided she didn’t want to continue because she felt like it was more work than she could commit to. I do think in a way she takes my breastfeeding as a personal attack on her choice not to. I genuinely think that the best decision on feeding is one that keeps the mama happy and the baby fed. I can see how it may be jealousy as well.

So sorry you're going through this. You are making the right choice breastfeeding if you can and it feels right it's the best start for your baby. She should be supporting you its hard enough as it is. I can't believe she wouldn't be. I hopw your journey gets better. You could go to breastfeeding support groups just to meet and chat to others and feel more supported x

we do give pumped milk in bottles sometimes so she does get to feed her. But my wife acts so inconvenienced when I ask her to feed the baby. She literally won’t even hold her to feed her, she props her up on a nursing pillow and feeds her that way. 🙄

Eww what is wrong with her? Like what is her problem?

Is your relationship otherwise ok? Has she bonded well with the baby?

our relationship became strained as soon as I got pregnant. She wasn’t overly kind or supportive during my pregnancy and that has carried over into postpartum life. She has started bonding more with the baby in the last few weeks, initially she didn’t seem interested.

that’s a great idea. I didn’t even think of support groups! Thank you.

Would she be open to couples therapy, do you think? It sounds like she has some issues going on that go beyond breastfeeding that could benefit from being discussed.
I hope things pick up for you soon 🤞