Any co sharing moms ready to move their kid to own bed?

My son is 3.5 and has co slept with me and my husband since he was born. Now we are TTC for baby #2 and I’m ready for him to sleep in his own bed and room to prepare for a new baby. But it’s been hard? For him and for us. We actually really enjoy sleeping with him and don’t sleep well when he’s not with us. 🤦🏾‍♀️ but thinking about having a new born and him still in bed with us feels overwhelming already. How have you transitioned your kid to their own bed after co-sleeping their whole life? My son was breastfed for two years so that’s how it started and after he stopped we just never moved him. TIA for any advice.

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We are in the same boat , thinking about another baby makes me feel guilty because I don’t want to put my baby in his own room and bed but we want to have another baby but if you have any answer I would love to know because we are in the same boat 🚤. It’s hard think about moving him and having another one .

Unfortunately our transition didn't go well and I feel like it was because our toddler suddenly got put into her own bed and we slept with the newborn? And in her head she didn't understand why she was no longer allowed in the bed and the new baby was?
We were worried about creating jealousy between them... unfortunately we are all sleeping in the same bed 😂 king mattress on the floor, my husband has the toddler on his outer side and I have the baby.
Will be good to see what advise other people have!

Happy Cosleeper on insta has a gentle transitions course on this but I think generally the advice is - set up the bed in their room together and make it special for them. Do that together (choose bedding or something), start just playing there together- no pressure to sleep, move onto naps there, and start introducing boundaries, "naps happen in the big bed", start then the move at night, being consistent but expect big feelings. Floor beds can also help so that you move with them first and gradually move yourself out of their room. This is what I'm doing however she is much younger so a bit easier.

My son is 15 months and sleeps in his own bed he always ends up in mine though. He goes to sleep easily when I read a story to him and then put on his sound machine with pictures. The first couple nights were hard but after that he gets to bed with no problems. (P.S he sleeps through the night and gets in my bed in the morning and goes back to sleep)

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

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I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

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