Delivery room advice

Im going to speak solely from a scientific point of view first. If he is causing you significant stress or anxiety, it is perfectly acceptable for you to not allow him in the hospital during labor and/or delivery. Labor will react with cortisol and adrenaline in your body. When those stress hormone levels go through the roof, your brain naturally decreases your production of oxytocin, the hormone responsible for active contractions. So the question becomes, will you be able to comfortably labor when the time comes if he is with you? Do you want to experience labor with or without any medical intervention? There’s no right or wrong answer, just what you feel in your gut is best for you.

Now for my mutual baby daddy drama answer: girl i WISH i didnt let the sperm donor into the delivery room with me. 😂 also if he didnt wanna be robbed of that experience maybe he shouldve been a more positive/active participant in the pregnancy 🤷🏼‍♀️ this sounds like it might just be his karma

This guy sounds just like my ex and I went through this same dilemma. I went without my daughters dad as we had broken up by then but also I had my mother in the room with me as my support person. I finally made the decision based on it being my birth and what I thought best for myself and bub at the time. It’s such a vulnerable experience and you do not need someone like that making you stressed or scared in a situation where it can be scary. If you can have a family member or friend that can be your support person that would be great but I hands down wouldn’t of let my ex in the room and if you feel he is no help than there’s no point in him being there. I didn’t even tell me ex that I was in Labour till I had bub cause I didn’t want him to ruin the experience and plus I was in pain and had my mind eles where. All I can really say is trust your gut and go with it and choose what’s best for you and your child.

Fetal ejection theory shows us that all type of women (even rabbits) when they don’t feel comfortable, or at ease or sense something that is upsetting or harmful for them, they have a harder time giving birth, as part of the birth experience is your minds state and you need to feel comfortable. I’d say if it’s gonna do more harm than good protect yourself first my love don’t worry about him if it’s gonna harm you, maybe he could be on standby at home until baby is here if you feel more comfortable xx

It's up to you, But it's important to be surrounded with love and support that day for sure! You don't need added stress. Has he expressed that he wants to be there?

he has yes, but he’s just been so shitty to me. I’m trying to not let my feelings get in the way but isn’t that day kinda about me? But that’s also why Im hesitant because of the fact that he did say he wants to be there last I knew. We haven’t talked about it in a little because every time I try to have a conversation with him he says he will get back to me and doesn’t. I finally told him how I felt and nothing…. Left on read

Don't stress about it, enjoy your pregnancy. Let things happen organically. Surround yourself with people who love and support you that day ✨