Advice?

How did you come back from feeling like you want to end it all ?
What was your light how are you still here today?

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Hey! Sounds like you might be in a tough time right now. I’ve been in lots of those. First, you can call the suicide prevention hotline at 988, just in case. They’re great to talk to in general just casually, or in a more urgent manner, or even just to sit in silence on the phone while you do what you’ve gotta do and not be alone! There’s ways to text too.

Secondly, to answer your question, for me it’s God and my faith that keeps me here and strong and looking to the next day. Also the concept that my challenges are temporary and this phase of motherhood/infancy will pass and there ARE good days and happy moments ahead (and now).
I love my husband and my son. Sometimes I’m frustrated or depressed but talking with him helps me, and cuddles, and chocolate. Going for a walk or getting outside, taking a shower and eating some healthy can jump start me into a better mindset.
I had really really bad postpartum depression and the only way I got through was constantly calling other moms -

Back to back and walking in circles outside with my baby. I hope you find what that makes you feel better as soon as possible and that this feeling goes away ♥️ I will be praying for you! You are loved and strong!

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You just have to remind yourself that this phase of life will change soon. You're in your winter season but spring is just around the corner. Things will get better. Things will get worse. Life sucks alot of the time but there are little things that make it worth it. I'm so glad I wasn't successful when I was 10 because then I got to experience organized sports and my first love. I'm so glad I was unsuccessful at 16 because then I got to meet my future husband. I'm so glad I was unsuccessful at 20 because I got to marry my best friend. I'm so glad I got help because now I have a child who means more to me than anything I've ever known. Therapy works. It's hard work and it's painful and for a while it feels like it doesn't work but it actually does help. I have to stay busy because if I sit still too long things get dark and stormy again. Meds help. There's a stigma but I'd rather be on meds than suicidal.

Absolutely! My son was born 3 months early and there were some hard days during his NICU stay id come back to the hotel after a day at the hospital and feel so defeated during that suppressed alot of my feelings so when we came home ptsd and depression hit me like a 10 ton truck i put myself in therapy and found ways to cope with those feelings. I thought about my son and how it would affect him for his entire life how he might question if it was his fault or why he wasnt good enough for me to stay. Finding yourself after being a mom is a hard journey to take on give yourself some grace and on the darkest day remind yourself that you deserve to be here and this is just a stage in your life that you CAN overcome

For me I would think about the pain and grief I would feel if it was one of my loved ones who ended it all and know I didn’t want to put them through that. I started therapy probably way later than I should have but it helped and also it’s ok to take medication it doesn’t mean you have to be on it forever. I was on low dose antidepressant for about a year. In that time I learned coping skills, prayed, painted, wrote…whatever helped me release my emotions. Things are so much brighter now but I have been to the darkest places so I want you to know there is light on the other side ♥️🙏

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.