I don’t know if I am in the wrong for having babies?

We are renting at the moment. Have two children. Me and my husband both work part time because we want to spend time with the kids and can afford to at the minute. And we are perfectly fine with not owning a property and renting.
We had our first baby one year into the marriage.

Sister in law keeps giving unsolicited criticism. She regrets having her children so early into their marriage, so she keeps reflecting that on me.

She keeps criticising me indirectly and directly. She keeps implying I’m stupid. My husbands brother and sister in law hasn’t got any kids despite getting married at the same time as us as they went through things/ prioritised other things.

But she keeps saying how they are clever and they must have other plans.

Honestly I’m so tired and unfortunately I do have days of hardship with the kids and her thoughts are just lingering in my mind. She’s basically getting into my head.

Are we really dumb to have babies??? Without owning a home

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No I don't think so
An who is this she telling u
I mean if she regrets then why torture u for itif someone tortured me I probably cut them off or limit talking I hate neg people

No absolutely not! Idk who this “she” is but she needs to stfu. I’d tell her to stop and how it makes you feel and if she doesn’t cut her out.

We don’t own a home either. Would we like to? Yes, but the market is terrible rn and our neighbors here are super nice!

Plus we can’t afford to own a home rn

Absolutely not!! It’s exactly what you’ve said, she regrets having kids so young so she’s projecting that on you.

My parents are in their 50s and they went from owning a home to renting and soon having to move again, things change throughout life, nothing is forever and if you and your partner and children are happy then who cares what anybody else thinks.

I’d respectfully tell her you’re happy the way you’re living and it’s none of her business. Dont let her get to you mama, please 😘

Lmfao classist people always regret giving birth to their children.

You had your children cause you wanted a family, you don’t need to own a house to build a family.

We have twin boys and don't own a home either, I got pregnant 7 months into our relationship and I dont regret it. Owning a home can come with such high costs for things you don't have to worry about when renting.

She shouldn't be projecting her feelings onto you xx

Just feeling exhausted!
She just started her job (first ever job) a year ago, and now saying I should’ve had lots of money as I was working 5-6 years full time before I had a baby and how she earns minimum age and I would’ve earned higher as I was doing a career.

Like i just don’t understand why we are talking about this right now?!

Who's "she" you don't say in your post

Sorry I thought I mentioned! My brothers wife so my sister in law

What’s wrong with renting? I never heard anyone saying you shouldn’t have children if you rent. It’s totally normal for young families to rent (most of the people I know don’t own their home).

Honestly with the price of mortgage etc going up and up, most people in this day and age down own a home 🤷🏽‍♀️

Not at all she will regret not having kids and focusing on money and material things. Also you should tell her that it upsets you when she talks about that

We are 40 (me next month) in a 900sqft apartment with a 9 & 11 year old... Three cats, a dog and foster kittens.
We have a yard, driveway and our kids love the schools. Genuinely- absolutely none of her business...

Owning a home isn't all that awesome.. I don't get why some people are so stressed on it. And it defintely has nothing to do with building a family. She sounds young and naive, not someone who should be giving life advice and opinions.

i don’t think so at all. we rent our place.. i think it’s a bit out of touch and old fashioned of her to think you have to own to have kids. i mean i would love to have our own place but we’ll get there one day 🤷🏽‍♀️ ignore her, don’t compare, remember everyone is on a different path and timeline

Miserable people can’t even fathom that others might be happy about something. Ignore these miserable people and find joy in your family. I feel sorry for them since they can’t find joy in theirs.

you don’t need to own your home to have kids is she dumb ??? if that’s the case then i’m even more of a moron than you because i’m living in a mother and baby unit for homeless mums !!! also not to mention you’re able to afford to rent AND have kids, i’m sat here bidding on council flats and struggling financially ! if i was in your position i’d be telling her to do one ! just because she regrets having kids so early into her marriage, doesn’t mean you should too. oh and there’s another thing, i’d be even MORE of a moron than implied above because not only am i not married, i’m not even in a relationship with my bd ! im a single mum to my 2 boys. she can’t say shit to reflect her stupid regrets on you, you’re WAY better off than me, she just wants to get in your head, she’s probably jealous that you’re happy with no regrets☺️

op is talking about 2 separate people in this post. the one who is reflecting her regrets on op has kids, and she’s reflecting her regrets of having kids “too early” into her marriage on op, and saying how the other woman is sensible for not having kids as of this point

I'd tell her to fuck off but I'm sure you'd be nicer than me about it. She still needs to mind her business. Tell her if she doesn't keep her mouth shut about your little family then she doesn't see you guys. You have kids when you want to have kids, enjoy your kids when you have them. NOBODY has EVERYTHING figured out before having kids. Not your fault she regrets hers. That's a her problem not a you problem.

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Resentment and placing blame on partner

Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

However I just find myself annoyed and blaming him for so many things I find difficult. I know this isn’t fair, but it’s almost like I’m angry that he’s finding it easy and I’m not. Angry if I’ve just got the baby to sleep and he doesn’t think and closes doors to loudly. Angry when he doesn’t dress baby warm enough, or when he puts him in a car seat with a coat on. When he forgets a blanket or doesn’t wash his hands and plays with him. When hes snoring and I’ve just got the baby to drift off.

We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
What do you think

What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..

When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.

Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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