Custody battle

Going through custody battle with my child’s father I wanted to know if anyone could give me some advice! The father and I lived separately the whole first 14 months of my sons life and I took care of him primarily by myself he never came to visit or came to help out with him or spent anytime with him unlesss I packed everything and drove 45 minutes to his place to spend one night there in hopes for him to help me in the slightest I still did 99% of the work when visiting him and that wasn’t even every weekend sometimes every other weekend at one point I didn’t go over for 2 months and in that 2 months he didn’t see our son at all. Fast forward to may he got an apartment for us we moved in in hopes he will help more and be more physically present in our sons life but he wasn’t he spend little to no time with him he worked Monday - Friday by the time he got home there was hour before our sons bedtimes he would play video game or watch podcasts instead of spending time with him the only thing I asked him to do was atleast help with bath time which he complained about every night. While living together I went to my moms every weekend with our son to get him out of the house and fun things and go to church etc but his father never wanted to come because he was too tired his excuse was always that he’s too tired. About 2 months ago he went through my messages with my mom while I was sleeping and saw how I was venting about how poorly he treats me and how mean he is to me (he was verbally abusive and has been physically abusive in the past) he didn’t like that I was telling my mom things so I woke up to him throwing things at me telling me to get out he then started getting really aggressive towards me while I’m holding my son and trying to get our things so I had to call police to escort him out. We only lived together for 4 months. I had met up with him about a week after to discuss child support since he financially cut me off and I’ve been staying at home with no income to take care of our son so he could work but once I mentioned child support he immediately said he wants 50/50 custody which I find shocking as he hasn’t shown any interest in being around our son his whole life. But now here’s my dilemma I don’t feel comfortable with my son going with him alone as he has a history of violence on his record and multiple duis and is currently on probation with a felony for violence I fear for my sons safety being alone with him.. do you think the judge would agree to supervised visitation?

in our community

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.