Tantrums?

I feel so lost and like a horrible mother and I just need someone to tell me everything is okay. My son (18months) is just crying ALL the time. I’m a stay at home parent so he’s with me all the time every day because we don’t have babysitters or friends/family to help. I have to assume it’s attachment mixed with teething (4 teeth coming at once) but I feel like all he does is cry and throw fits. My friend mentioned it might be terrible 2’s early but I don’t know. It’s becoming to a point where I just have to let him hysterically scream so I can fix him breakfast and I’ve never felt such intense guilt in my life. I hate letting him cry, I’m scared that it’ll mess him up, but I’m running out of options. Does anyone have any advice? This is my first.

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It's ok to let his cry if you get busy. While you do breakfast, keep talking to him in a soft voice. Tell him you are there whenever he needs you. Mommy is making breakfast baby, so we can all eat in some minutes.
My 13 months old is very similar (maybe in a softer intensity). I can't get anything done.

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thank you so much, I’ll give this a shot. I hate it because even if I talk to him in a soft voice he just screams louder but I guess it’s about consistency over anything. Eventually he’ll understand. Thank you 💕

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My guy is 16 months LOL and he SCREAMS anytime I’m in the kitchen cooking.
I’ve gotten to the point it’s just ridiculous 😂
So now I walk him over to his little couch and tell him to sit and wait for supper or whatever .
It’s actually helped a huge deal. I put his show on and he sits there quietly waiting for supper
At first obviously he hated it! But now he understands he’s gotta wait and screaming is getting him nowhere

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What I also do is putting his on the kitchen table (being very cautious obviously) and ask him to help me doing whatever he can for his age: taking out the spinach from the bag so I can cut it, put the potato I just cut in the cooker,... If there's nothing he can do, I let him touch the ingredients (onions, tomatoes, ..). He loves that's so much. And no screaming at all. 🤗 Good luck

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I'm going through the same thing.. I hear mixed opinions about letting them just scream and cry and wait until they calm down. I have a pang of guilt every time I let him be while he screams, but after he stops, I acknowledge his frustration and then ask him if he can ask me in an inside voice. He can only say some words so I ask him to say "mom" and use sign language for "help," "please," "give me," "play together" etc and it worked for us! It did take like a month... but now his screaming is shorter, and a pitch toned down😅

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This is pretty normal. But I am sure it is tough when your dealing with it on your own through out the day.. Just know it’s okay to let him cry. And my teething girl would settle with a pop cycle when she teeth’s. I put her in her high chair with a pop cycle I’ve done the Pedialyte pops and the ones with real fruit trying to be healthier but it would help a lot when she’d get to that point where nothing really could soothe her. Or yes distracting or miss Rachel, or having her help.

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I recently bought a toddler tower to involve my 16mo in kitchen activities and will give her mundane tasks while I cook like practicing with her fork, mixing dry cereal in a bowl etc. it’s been a really good opportunity for her to see what goes on and get involved, before this however I just sat her on the floor with a pan and some water 🫣😂

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Can you wear him still? Or maybe get a learning tower to get him to help? At this age they just want to be busy. Waiting on the floor what you are doing what looks like something fun up there is frustrating for them. Alternatively, can you get up a tad earlier to make breakfast?

You sort of need to fill his cup before u can get something g done, get him busy with something. Have 2 more things under your sleeve bc attention span is very short. No Pinterest activities, but a spray bottle to water the plants, feed the dog, cut the fruit, play with water (yes, first thing in the morning 😂) idk if any of that would work, but those have worked for me. I went through it. He is now 22 months and I can FINALLY see him playing independently for longer. I am also a sathm and the attachment is REAL

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You should try give him some medicine if you see hes teething and very fussy and make sure he always has toys and putting on cartoons will help put on youtube cartoon bible stories and veggie tales. Also mickey mouse and mrs rachel is fun every now and then take him on nature walks or too the park this will help him overall too not cry so much.

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Firstly, please don’t judge me - I’m aware all my thoughts aren’t rational and I do already feel badly about them

I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

I do a lot of the mental labour - realising we need more of and purchasing clothes, milk, groceries, deciding dinner, cooking, cleaning, thinking about what baby needs, etc.

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We have had many conversations and he has tried to take loads off me but it never feels like enough for me to stop being annoyed with him.

Am I experiencing some sort of post partum mental health issues? I find myself upset and crying a lot. any advice would help.

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THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

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Parenting 24/7 is harder than going to work full time?

I’m having a debate with my partner as he’s done nothing to help since. Our 14 month old was born, I’ve done it all alone all day and all night. He gets a break when he comes in from work all night I never get a break
He try’s to tell me it’s harder going to work full time 5 days a week than parenting ALONE 24/7?
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What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..


When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

I don’t know if he is maybe a visitor, I see his car sometimes but usually it’s another person who looks like him with a different car. Maybe my neighbors dad is my best bet.


Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

Thanks ladies wish me luck

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