First sleepover

It’s my baby’s first sleepover at my mums today. Having a date day/night with my husband. Babies Getting dropped off about 2 and I feel sick to my stomach. I have a 14 and 12 year old so this isn’t the first time for me… just don’t want to leave my baby. Anyone else feel like this?

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Yes! Once the first time is out the way, you’ll be fine. Nice that the first time is with hubby so you don’t have to put on a brave face if you’re feeling a bit worried - you can be yourself.

Hope you enjoy mama - you deserve it ❤️

Same, leaving my little boy for around 7 hours today too for the first time and it’s also making me feel sick 😣 I never thought I’d feel this bad! We have tickets to a show that were a gift years ago and I know it will do me good but I’m already wishing the hours away 😂

I didn’t mind with my first, but my son - can’t do it! In all fairness he has had a very rough start to life, premie nicu baby with health issues so I just don’t like being away from him but I know that soon I need to try and let go, even for an hour or two.

With my first, I spent the whole evenin crying the first time she slept at my mother in laws 😂 it does get better after that. Enjoy yourself 💕

My baby has been having sleepovers from about 7 weeks - I miss him but mumma needs a break lol, I know he’ll be safe and it’s important to have quality time with your partner. Try to make the most of it because before you know it they’ll be back screaming in your face 🤣

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