leaving bd

hi, I am a young mom. I’ve been a single mom for a few months. I tried moving out of state to live with family, but that didn’t work. I’m now back in California and I need advice/encouragement. This feels impossible like I’m never gonna be able to do it I have two young boys three in one. Their dad is a cheater and a narcissist and very toxic for my life so I know we need to move on and leave, but I have nowhere to live. Does anyone know of anything I can do to get help with my living situation? Also, just any encouragement if you had to go through something similar how did you push through Phils impossible but I know I need to do it. It’s the only way I will be happy.

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Also, we broke up but then he manipulated me into thinking he could be better so I gave him another chance and all that has been is fighting and seeing that he’s just been talking to so many girls on so many dating apps he’s a terrible person and I don’t wanna be here with him anymore

Hi love ! So sorry you’re going through this. Leaving is always so hard but actually moving states & finding shelter is even harder. Know there will be better days & you’re living your toughest ones right now. If you can move on from this you can do anything. I’m here if you need someone to talk to. I currently left as well, & I’m struggling so much to even move through my days… it’s brought me down so much.

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