My mother thinks I’m a slave🙄

My mother wants me to be a slave to the home. My 17 year old nephew stays here too and I went to visit my bf for 2 days and came home and I asked him did my mom mention anything about cleaning up to him and he said no . But the day I came home, she’s fussing telling me I’m a disappointment because I don’t agree to clean up the mess that was made while I was gone for them 2 days. I have my 2 kids I focus on and I’m only here temporarily for the next 2 months for financial reasons then I’m leaving again. But while I’m here, she literally expects me to do everything here while her 17 yo grandson sits on his tail and smoke pot & her 39 yo son(like father like son) . I think she’s miserable with her life mostly because my dad doesn’t help with anything here. He just works, come home n go into his shed outside for hours. Even made slick comments about my bf being her man then laughed it off like it was funny …. 😒

they don’t support me, they always talk down on me, make me feel like I have to do literally everything here when I shouldn’t be cleaning up after 3 boys in the home and her ass . Just my 2 kids and myself . It even influences my kids to get off track with things I’ve set in place. My 3 yo son literally came and told me “mema said she don’t care about you”… MY 3 YO REMEMBERS WHAT MY MOM SAID … & said it in front of him that’s even worse …

Should I cut my family off & move back with my bf & be better for me and my kids and just not reach out to them anymore ?

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Ofc . My bf never let me do anything alone . We switch out . But in my parents home, I can’t do it because it’s traumatizing as hell.

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I pray and hope so because my son has been different since we got back & ik it’s my parents letting him do and act anyway that he knows I don’t allow . Thank you ❤️

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My mother was the same, except it was just her, my kids and me living together. It really made things hard for me and the kids. My brother and me ended up no contact with her

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Thank you for sharing my lovely. You are not alone. How are you feeling now?
I know it's hard when living at home with your mother and I'm happy you have been able to find a space here to speak on your experience 🌱

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Man why is she telling your son that? Yuck! She will manipulate your kids if you stay around. She means what she said, she don’t care but do what you have to do until you can leave. Keep your peace and respect her as much as you can even if it hurts.

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It really bothers me because how can a human being who gave me life be this way to her only daughter and then try to rub it all on my kids as well. Especially my son because he is so smart and picks up on stuff quickly .

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