Husband doesn’t help

Does he at least help with the kid? Or is this just a pattern of his? I don't believe you should be doing everything. I mostly am the one cooking because I stay at home but sometimes my husband will help or even cook a small meal by himself. But I don't mind because he helps with everything else, the baby, the laundry, everything household related...

He wouldn't have been around long enough to have any children nor 10 whole years with me!! You're a saint putting up with that. My ex was like this, but younger. This guy is too immature STILL and gives me the ick.

he does.. he will take our kiddo for bath or play with him when Im cooking. When it comes to taking the kid to bed it either him or me..but here is the thing what Im seeing is my kid now wants to be with his dad all the time. He think his dad is a cool parent who plays with him and does all the fun. Few days back my son was playing with my husband and I went there to play with them and he tells me “Mom you go to the kitchen”
I cant tell you how devastated I felt that time.

Oh no! Your son is learning that from him. I'm so sad for you 😢

I married my man both of us not knowing how to cook, really, just the basics nothing gourmet. I learnt over the years by watching a million tutorials, watching Gordon Ramsey, replicating his meals watching his tips and tricks and “the ultimate guide to cooking” videos. As for him, I started an Everyplate subscription which comes w ingredients, which comes w the recipe card, and I legit laid out the ingredients needed for that meal set the recipe card next to it and said “here. Tonight’s your turn. Everything you need is here, just follow the recipe”. And yes he did ask me questions here and there but he was willing to do, willing to learn, didn’t complain, and now he’s an amazing cook. I married a spoilt only child but he’s come a LONG way than what his mother gave me. Even she’s shocked when he steps foot in the kitchen because she never really allowed him to be there- she cooked all his meals. And now he can thanks to me. But they have to be willing, as well. And yes he works FT

Oh good suggestion

I also used hello fresh and my husband actually made meals. Now we're not on it anymore he's a bit more lazy 😂

thanks Kellie.. you know I have tried that too. It started off well for sometime and then he started finding reasons.. like he would just say I have some office work to do( after office hours????) or things like i will cook when i get free from my work which obviously is like way past time my kids bedtime routine. And now Im at my 2nd trimester when I just dont feel like cooking. Everytime i have argued he ends up saying “ you are not doing a favour to this house, I pay 90% of the bills so you are just taking care of the food” like really? Im not his personal maid.. i dont even know why Im in this marriage? Im just scared of a broken marriage and cant see my kids not having their parents together but for sure it is fucking up my mental peace!

so he does.. he loves to do groceries if I ask him.. cleaning was another issue that we argued on so he bought a robot vaccum.. he does play with the kid or gets him to sleep(bath/brush/bedtime routine).. laundry for him is always like putting clothes in the washer and dryer but he never folds the clothes.. thats again my job or he will fold like one set of laundry out of 5! Iron we iron our own clothes.. for bathroom and other cleaning we have cleaners that come in once in a month.. for him he has always found money as a means to excuse him from the household chores!

Wow that’s rough while I was pregnant with #3 my SO took over the cooking and cleaning granted I was sick as hell and barely ate so he was just cooking for him and the boys but now he still does a lot because baby girl brought out a lot of health issues unfortunately so I’m blessed and cursed all at the same time positive vibes your way 🧚

If you both work the same hours, you both have the same household responsibilities for time commitment to household labor. It matters, none who makes more money. I technically make more than my husband, but it's still me that does more household labor. We have fights about household divisions of labor, but it is getting better. My husband won't cook actual food but will cook breakfast items and usually cook breakfast when we are home, so it is the 1 break from cooking I get. Things need to be fair for how much household labor there is not necessarily by 1 to 1 chore but to have equitable time commitments for household and child care responsibilities when you both work outside the home the same number of hours