I feel like I’m going crazy HELP

I was raised in a feminist household where every time I said I wanted to be a mom when I grew up, my parents would ask, “What else?” Now, as a stay-at-home mom of two, I realize I was never taught how to manage a home or balance “me time” and “mom time.” It’s especially challenging with ADHD, and after moving, my house is just boxes everywhere. I struggle to stick to a schedule that would help me create a clean, organized home for my children to grow up in.

Did anyone else grow up with a corporate mom and find themselves unsure of how to navigate life as a stay-at-home parent or homemaker? If so, I’d love to hear your tips! How do you manage cleaning, organization, and finding time for yourself while caring for your kids?

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My mom wanted to be a stay at home mom but drilled into us to go into the health field cuz it will always have jobs. I'm audhd and struggle. My husband made chore sheets for everyone for daily tasks and it seems to be working for us. I was a sahm for most of my 13 years married to my husband but now kids are in school I'm trying to juggle everything including a job now.

I struggle a lot as well. I feel like my responsibility list is overflowing and sometimes I don't know where to start. Also how because baby has needs and as far as me time... the biggest struggle of all. I just moved as well so I feel that. My mom has been helping here and there w unpacking some boxes. Couldn't do it without her... or I could but it would take forever to make progress.

Have you ever used the finch app?
It literally saves my life! I even put in some nice tasks for myself like in the calendar like Wednesday I'll paint my nails or w.e. then also just the whole aspect of the app is great because you earn points for tasks and can dress up your bird and it's home lol

When I was growing up I wanted to be a mother my son has ADHD attention hyperactivity disorder and he's on meds for it but I have to keep an eye on his moods and emotions but I have PTSD, anxiety and depression. Depression not so bad right now but at times I do struggle with getting up and cleaning or getting his homework done or doing chores

Well I struggle with this too I'm ADD and my son is Autistic what I find that helps is I'll make a short list at the beginning of the week of everything that absolutely has to get done but be realistic you know yourself and a few extra things you might want to have done so like 5 or 6 things and get them done by the end of the week if you wanna do them all in one day cool if you wanna do 2 one day and 3 the next or one everyday I feel like it gives you options and then if I did absolutely nothing one day but still get everything done by the end of the week then you still feel accomplished

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

5 month old activities

Hey everyone my baby is 5 months old and I want to reduce/cut screen time as I have read up on how bad it is what activities did people do to keep their baby entertained. Thank you in advance.

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

I feel physically sick

I was going through my partners phone. He doesnt mind it. I let him go through mine,we have our emails on the tablet im an open book nothing to hide. I fine this one girl on his phone, they know each other they used to work together. Then I see that he is asking about her dating life blah blah. Then he texted "lucky enough you are one of a few beautiful" um WTF & " thats what i said if not i will have been with you" we have a 16 month old together we are engaged. I cant sleep he is sleeping next to me and I feel so sick I cant ive cried twice and I feel like im breaking