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Autism Spectrum advice and support

Think daughter may be autistic

Hi

I am looking for some advice. I have twin girls who are turning one next week.

One twin is meeting all of her milestones and is on track however my other twin I think is falling behind massively.

Some of the things I am worried about;

She has poor eye contact when being held, she will engage and smile when she is further away however when I hold her she just looks around.
She is very behind on gross motor, only started crawling at 10 months. She can’t get herself into standing or sitting by herself - her core appears to be weak.
She can hardly eat solids without gagging and struggles to actually pick a lot of the food up and put it to her mouth so I’m also worried that her fine motor skills are delayed.
She is a very happy and content baby and rarely cries.
She does make sounds and at times will repeat a word I say like hiya.
She was waving a lot since 6 months but that has stopped recently although she has started doing it occasionally the last few days.
She can follow some direction like when I say clap your hands she does it without prompting, she smiles and giggles whenever i walk into the room and she also knows what no means.
She can’t point or share toys yet although this is something i only recently started working with her on.

I have spoken to HV who says they do not see any concerns and that they think I’m comparing her to her sister too much which I may be doing but I’m finding it really hard that one twin just understands everything and another who seems like she is miles off.

I am looking for some advice on how people managed to get a referral as I want her to get any support she needs as soon as possible and not just wait and see.

Thanks and sorry for the long post.