Rant needed

I need to just rant about this because I just don’t know how to feel about this. So one of my best friends come round on the weekend and she came to look at our nursery for our baby girl. Later that day my partner was on his Christmas party and bumped into my friend who then made a comment that ‘She had a bad feeling when she walked in the nursery’.

My partner didn’t really respond to the comment because she was a little drunk and he didn’t really know what to say so just left it at that and walked away. He obviously then told me not thinking about it but it’s really been on my mind since.

This is our first baby and I’m already really anxious and scared to give birth for multiple reasons. I’m scared because I don’t know what to expect, I’m scared for the health of my baby, I just don’t think it was a necessary comment and it’s really annoyed me ngl 🤣 I don’t think my partner thought that it would play on my mind as much as it is when he mentioned it but also wish he really didn’t say anything to me tbf but I don’t blame him for anything at all.

I’m the first one of our friends to have a baby so I have no one to talk to this about and I know this is a really pointless post, I’m just ranting sorry

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Ah I'd have ranted too.
Hopefully a rant makes you feel better as really it's quite trivial....the bad feeling could be nothing to do with anything and regardless nothing is as powerful as a mothers intuition.

So light that candle lady and get you all the positive vibes ! Sending a tonne your way. Let the Xmas drinkers, be merry, say stuff they don't mean and dance the night away.
It will be nothing more than that.

As your bestie if she legit had a bad vibe she would have said there and then or you'd have seen it on her face 😏 it's just drunk chatter x

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Did she say anything to you at the time, or did you have a chance to talk about your impressions of the nursery?
When looking around a nursery you are there to decide if you like it, have a good feeling etc so I don't see what's wrong with her comment unless she said its amazing to you at the time and then this comment to your partner later?
There is nothing wrong with having a bad feeling about a place if it's genuine, and she said it to you or will say it to you otherwise what's the point in her looking with you at all if not to have an opinion and determine if it's the right spot for your baby. X

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thank you, I needed that! Sending you love and luck too xx

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She’s jealous mate! Expect BS comments and negative vibes from some friends. Don’t let her horrid comment get to you. Well done on completing your nursery! Don’t let her dull your joy x

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I think the poster was talking about the nursery (room) in their home - that's how I understood it at least, in which case I think that comment was not appropriate. Is that the case OP?

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Oh sorry I mean her room at our house rather than a nursery setting! X

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Thank you so much 🩷 xx

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Ah right, that makes sense, sorry.
That is really rude and unnecessary of your friend. Who says that! I'd ask her to explain, put her on the spot. It's a pretty nasty thing to say

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Yes nasty and completely unnecessary - I'd be annoyed about this too if it were me

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Thank you everyone. I just don’t know what the bad feeling is. Whether it’s about the nursery or like a superstitious feeling if that makes sense but either way completely unnecessary but I do feel better after a rant. Thank you all again xx

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Much love doll.
Not worth falling out over something like it though it is rude.
I'm sure she will be a great friend and outweigh a silly comment x

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I'd personally raise it with her as otherwise it's going to play on your mind x

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What a nasty thing to say! Personally I would just put it from your mind, that’s not the behaviour of someone who cares about you and your wellbeing. ❤️

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