If my husband's friend wife is disrespectful to me should he stand by me as his wife and tell them they're wrong ?

The problem is my husband still goes over to their house, and they want our child to come over. They hold holiday events, and am I not supposed to go if my husband and child go over there ? She has tried to set him up with one of her friends before .

She tried to set him up with one of her friends? Oh hellllll fuckin no 😤

Why isn’t your husband standing up for you?! He can keep his friendship with her husband, but as for going over to their home with your kids, ain’t no way! He should also tell the wife what a cunt she is too just so she knows why they don’t come over and also that her behaviour is disrespectful to you and he won’t allow it.

If he still keeps the friendship with the husband, their home should be off bounds and they only meet at other outside venues.

Tbh if I was your husband, I would also be rethinking the relationship with the husband too because why hasn’t he said anything to his wife about how rude and disrespectful she’s being?

Yes. he is out of line imo. Your spouse ideally should be the priority to everyone else in your life if anyone is a threat to or doesn’t respect the union they ought to be dismissed immediately . No one should supersede the union for the longevity of the union to be sustainable

I'll say it really depends on why. If she's disrespectful because you started it and haven't sincerely apologised, in his head you're the problem and you shouldn't have brought his friendship in that situation.

Also if you aren't the nicest to your spouse, they might want to help him by getting him away from you. I watched my wife my abuser recently and I'm definitely straying away from giving blanket rules as if everyone is perfect in a relationship.

If she started it and you've been a perfect wife in every sense, he should stick by you and rethink his friendship. I wouldn't want my children there either in that case

My husband said he's been feeling distant with his friend but he still reaches out to him.

@Stella I'm nice to my husband, we've had our up and downs like every other relationship. But I respect that answer. And I don't think I started but maybe that's why I should reach out.

Thank you for replying, that's a relief to hear 😅

If you are the same OP as on another post I've seen with you reaching out 3 times and her not replying, I would leave it at that.

I'd bring all my concerns to my husband and I'd want him to deal with it whichever way he sees fit (if he'll talk directly to the wife to call her behaviour out with the friend present or if he'll talk to his friend and say he won't be coming over unless she talks to you to share the reasons behind her behaviour and hopefully an apology if she's been trying to introduce him to other women while you've been together).

Adult relationships are tough and I can see why he'd stick with him if that's his only friend at this time, no one wants to be lonely... But also if he accepts them treating you this way, I can't imagine that friend having much respect for your husband, so how much does he really gain from this relationship? 😵‍💫😥

Yeah he should absolutely have your back, regardless of whether he agrees with the situation or not. My kid wouldn’t be going over 🖕🏼 and neither would my husband.