Do you kiss your baby or kids on the lips?

I know quite a few parents that do because the kids see the parents kiss each other on the lips, so they do the same to their parents.

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Not when they are a baby because of the associated dangers, but once my oldest child became aware of kissing and wanted to kiss and be kissed back then yes. It is not something I would force though, he gets given a choice and if his response is no then no kiss.

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I was at a friends house when I was 20 and when her dad got home, she kissed him on the lips. It was…odd and is eternally burned into my brain lol.

So, I’ve never encouraged it but aren’t reactive to my kids if they accidentally peck me on the lips. I usually just say lip kisses are for adults. We have so many more germs than babies or toddlers too so it was never worth it for me

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something very similar happened to me and I was taken back because I wasn’t brought up like that - an adult kissing their parent on the lips

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My kids will kiss me on the lips however not so much now.

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I don’t do it, but I think it’s weird when the person is an adult kissing their parents on the lips, that’s very weird

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Abbbbbsolutely 🥰 my eldest son is 3 and he tells me he loves me and kisses me on the lips every night before bed

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Not my baby but yes my toddler

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I tuck my lips in and aim my lips below my toddlers , so she’s kissing the area between my nose and top lip 😆 I’m not kissing directly on her slobber mouth lol but she wants kisses on the “lips” definitely because she sees me and her dad doing it that way lol

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The reason isn’t because they see the parents hahaha. I rarely kiss my partner in front of my son. I kiss my son on the lips because he is my baby and I made him

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No not for me personally. Cheeks is fine. I don’t like it

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My 2yo daughter yes, i stopped kissing my son on the lips when he was about 8

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I don’t go for my toddlers lips when I do the kissing, which is 90% of the time. But when he goes in for one, he def goes for my lips and I’m not redirecting him yet. It’s so cute lol I don’t want him to think he is doing anything wrong.

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I’ve always kissed my daughter on the lips and don’t see anything off about it. I grew up kissing my mum & family on the lips too

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Nope I don't but that's because when he goes to kiss he just puts his head down for you to kiss his head.
Bout near whopped my grandma for kissing his lips, especially as he was in his pram and he couldn't move away (which he was trying to do)

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We listen and we dont judge - well actually I do really really judge parents who kiss their child’s lips… why on earth is this normalized 😭 its gross behavior

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No, and it makes me incredibly uncomfortable to see it. Each to their own though

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You’d be surprised how many parents do! It’s interesting to see the votes from this poll too 👀

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Yes and will continue to do so until they’re a bit older maybe around 8 or so but even now if they don’t want to kiss me I don’t force them too- they are all toddlers

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My baby is 6 months and goes for my mouth open wide and I let her god is that bad but I don’t exactly pucker up

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Sometimes 💋

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I just imagine its a bunch of slobber lmao

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can I ask why you think its gross behaviour? 🤔

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yeah it is hahaha but it’s still so cute

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are u sexualizing it or something? It’s just a little peck on the lips 🤷🏼‍♀️

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I love the milky newborn smell that comes from his mouth I do it less now that he's older and drools and eats food. When he was a newborn it was mouth kisses all day long

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It's not my preference but my daughter is still learning about the concept of cheek kisses, for now she only kisses on or near the mouth. She kisses her toys ALL the time. She doesn't do hugs, we've been trying to teach her, but for now pretty much the only form of physical affection she gives us is an occasional kiss on the mouth. I'll continue teaching her new ways to express her feelings but I'll take what I can get, they're only little once and if your child isn't very affectionate you'd understand why I do it.

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My son stopped me from kissing him in general when he was about 4. I don't know why, but I try to respect his wishes. My daughter was lips or cheek until maybe this last year or two and now it's usually anywhere but lips (she's 9). Sometimes there's an accidental lip, which, we don't make a big deal about.
It doesn't bother me when other people do it with their kids, as long as it's not weird vibes. Whatever, every family is different.

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why on earth would it?

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what on earth are you talking about please?

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why are you sexualising a relationship between a mother and their child though? I see that more of a you problem than anything else

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normalised is exactly what it should be. Sexualising it is completely bizzare and actually scary if that’s where your mind goes. You are the issue if you think it in this light. It is a form of affection and bond between mother and child and even father and child. No one is saying they’ll be kissing their 18 year old but a baby is the most innocent purest thing, I cannot get my head around it. It is odd for everyone that finds it weird. It is your BABY hahaha

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Don’t sexualize it.

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i’m gonna kiss my children on the lips until they don’t want to anymore 🥰 i won’t ever kiss anyone else’s kids but my own so ima soak it up until it’s gone. my kids aren’t gonna want to hug or kiss their mommy forever 🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s only weird if you make it weird imo

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hi friend sometimes kissing like this is cultural. my mom is italian and she kisses her friends, us kids, etc as a greeting. same with my aunts, cousins, and everyone on my moms side. randomly kissing family could be viewed as weird but as a greeting i would disagree (again though this is like a cultural thing that i’ve seen my entire life so i understand if ur not exposed to that it would be funny)

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I do. I mainly do it on the cheek though, just because my lo is always on the move or focused on something and gets irritated when my whole face is blocking play time 🤣 he used to kiss on the lips but just offers his cheek and forehead now

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intentionally stopped because he turned 8?

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I mean to each it's own I prefere not too because of the high percentage that many ppl carry the herpes virus in their system aka cold sores.

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My 22mth old grabs my face and kisses my mouth. It doesn't bother me because it's innocent. She'll also kiss my nose and forehead and cheeks.

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I guess its just a cultural thing 🤷🏻‍♀️ I did not grow up around with people doing that, same reason as why we dont have dogs as pets because their saliva is very unhygienic!

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how is it gross?

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funny cos I’m Turkish Cypriot and all my family are affectionate and hug and kiss and greet each other with kisses. The reason for dogs is a religious factor so completely different. We are Muslim and don’t have dogs but kiss our kids because nowhere in the Quran does it say we cannot. Stop being so ridiculous. Do you think people are licking their kids faces or licking their lips?

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My son stopped kisses years and years ago lol he is 16. I hardly get hugs. My daughter who is 12 will still give me a hug and either a lip or cheek kiss. I’ll never ever stop her. That is my baby. My world. I cherish each time she gives me a hug and a kiss 🥰

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