Rocking, feeding or shh’ing to sleep

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I did this and it was the worst mistake I made. Unfortunately my daughter didn't grow out of it she expected to be rocked to sleep every night. It was a nightmare to get her to sleep as she got older but we eventually got there when we moved house and she got her own room at 2. Now pregnant again ill be trying the self soothe method. Every child is different but I struggled

I never did this because no one’s ever told me to rock baby to sleep and I’m obviously clueless because I thought babies just went to sleep on their own 😂 my partner is the same though, we’re first time parents but he is younger than me so I’ll give him that lol, anyway we’ve just been putting bub down awake since birth (obviously when she was a newborn she was sleeping most of the time) and we’re still putting her down awake and she gets herself to sleep every time so maybe it’s a good thing I didn’t realise you had to rock her. In my opinion a lot of “uncomfortable” things happen nowadays because we’re doing things differently which obviously isn’t necessarily a bad thing but I prefer the way our parents did things because they seem to work better. For example both my mum (2 kids) and my partners mum (4kids) had never heard of sleep regression and never went through it so it does make me think are we picking up our babies too fast in the night and feed them to make them go back to

I have mixed views on this.
I sleep trained my daughter and she never shared a bed with my husband and I after 1. It was heartbreaking listening to her cries at times but I listened to the internet gurus. I was 22 and clueless but my gut told me it wasn’t right and I went against my maternal instincts. I now feel it’s had an emotional impact. I see it different now as I share a bed with my partner every night, I have comfort and reassurance on tap subconsciously, yet expect my baby to sleep independently on her own, it makes little sense to me now. I honestly believe you cannot coddle or spoil a baby but you do have to do what feels right for you, only you know your baby well enough and a lot of this is trial and error. Be gentle and patient with yourself💗💗

Sleep rather than just letting them figure it out on their own and leaving them for a bit because by picking them up we’re telling them it’s okay to do that then they carry on doing it every night and then starts the reverse cycle?? Idk tho, like I said I’m clueless and it’s just my way of thinking and I’m probably sooo wrong in so many women’s eyes on this app but I also think as helpful as this app is sometimes, it’s also bad because it makes you wanna do things a certain way and if you don’t do it that way, you get judged or you’re doing it “wrong”. I would just do what feels right for you. Sorry went off the subject a little bit 😂

I’m pretty convinced a lot of the pressure comes from consumerism as well as where parents have to go back to work so soon after baby is born. Also, infants don’t actually self soothe, it’s a developmental skill they gain overtime. Just as they do so when they are ready to crawl etc. My cousins both held their first children all the time and they grew out of it. One of their second kids can get to sleep on her own and in any space , another can’t. It’s definitely not a one size fits all. My parents said they used the cry it out method with me and my siblings, but now they panic when my child cries or even moans a little

Thank you all! Our little one did go without rocking prior to 4months but now they need help. However they don’t need help throughout the night.

I agree it’s not a one size fits all and it what works for each household. Was Jsut curious on people’s responses. Thank you. ❤️

We stopped rocking once my son became too heavy and we started laying with him until he fell asleep. We switched to a floor bed when he turned 1, which meant that we could do this. Have a look into a floor bed, it was a game changer for us and it was super easy to roll away once he was asleep.

so he was fine until then? Sleeping throughout night ect? Our LO is only 5 months :) x

thank you

thank you, I needed this ❤️