Am I wrong?

Posting this to understand if I am at fault or I have just become too sensitive after postpartum.
I gave birth to my daughter almost 6 months ago and use to have average relationship with my inlaws.Before and during birth,they came to live with us for 4 months.During this course,they wanted to invite their daughter and son in law along with two kids.I was never in agreement with this bcz I wanted to relax during my 9 month and wanted my husband’s time.One day prior I was told that my SIL along with her family will be there before birth and stayed for almost 4 weeks till I gave birth.Household chores were very difficult in my final weeks for 8 people in house.
My MIL was quite helpful with preparing food after birth but has a habit of commanding me everytime for little things.My FIL is no less and said many things with pinched me a lot during small arguments such as ‘Astrologers said -girls like you never get married .If you would have come soon before your son’s marriage,I would have never let this marriage happen.She is not right for you’.I am still figuring out the logic why would anyone say that after 8 years of marriage during fight.
I have endured enough till 3 months after postpartum and I think I was in severe depression but everyone including my husband made things worse for me.My husband behaves like an ideal son and never says anything to his parents.Sometimes,he even says thin in agreement with my inlaws taunts.Now when they are gone,I do not feel any love and respect for my in laws.My relationship with my husband is now very limited bcz I think when I needed him he was never there mentally.Now,he feels I should forgive the elders bcz they realise they can be wrong and have normal relationship with them.
My only question is who is going to pay for my mental health and the trauma I have endured postpartum till 3 months?Am I at fault or just over-reacting?

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I am so sorry that happened for you. Having a baby is a lot and having in-laws stay is one thing (anyone in the house I personally feel like I’m hosting 24/7) but for THEM to invite your SIL and her kids?!? The audacity. I can’t lie I wouldn’t have allowed it. Then to disrespect you in your own home.

Your partner should be trying to make it up to you. And he says you should ‘forgive’ .. have they apologised then? I don’t think I’d ever truely move past it to be honest giving birth is a vulnerable time and I’d always be a little salty for how I was treated. But maybe that just me.

Hi there! I’m really sorry that you had this experience within your family especially being postpartum and have to deal with a newborn and all the hormones.

I assume you had a ‘real’ conversation with your husband about how you feel and all the aspects of this experience that were nothing but disrespectful towards you. Firstly hosting after giving birth, having your in laws around who you already do not have a great relationship with, to not be heard regarding having SIL around too.

If there is anything to apologise for it could be being rude on a simple conversation if that had been the case during this time however all the above decisions were taken against your will during a very fragile period for you and your husband and his parents should understand this instead of asking an apology.

Everytime I have conversation with my husband,he feels I have become very strange after birth.He feels I should reconcile with my inlaws and have loving relationship which I beg to differ.I am on talking terms with my inlaws but cannot have a long and loving conversation.As a son I never stopped him from anything but I need my own space and live in peace.

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