Breastfeeding mums - initial latch pain question

Hi mums, just wondering how long that first toe-curling 'ouch' moment lasts on latch before it goes away? Surely that must come to an end? 😅

First time mum here and luckily baby has a great latch, no tongue tie, but that first part is horrendous. I've got some of those silver shields which I find help in-between feeds, but does that first but of pain go away? I'm on day 6 PP.

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mine is mostly on my left! I did ask the midwife yesterday, she said it was normal and checked my latch again - said it looked great, but I forgot to ask how long it lasts 😅 I hate that first bit

The infant feeding team told me no longer than 10 seconds but my boy has tongue tie so sometimes i feel like hes a piranha initially. Then other times, no latch pain at all. Its weird! But yeah that latch pain is something else!

My boy was 3 weeks old yesterday and it was the first day I didn’t feel in agony when he latched! It’s been a painful journey so far , worse than I remember with my other 3.

Have you tried Lansinoh nipple cream? I used it after every feed and it really helps x

I have, it is good stuff!

aw bless you. Glad to hear it's subsided for you now

good to know about the 10 sec rule. It doesn't last longer than that for me I don't think, but baby is cluster feeding still so I'm dying 😭

It could go on for a couple of weeks (it did with my first) but it can be just a few days (this time for me it subsided quite quickly!) You'll get through it, I promise x

ok thank you ❤️ I hope it goes soon

With my first around a month. Now my second is 11 days and I have those initial latch pains so hoping not long left of it.

I had this pain for 11 weeks with my first 🥲 hoping for less this time but it’s already so much less painful now 2 weeks in. But the good news is that it ends! I stopped bf at almost 2 years. Fingers crossed for you!

really hope mine passes soon 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

I’ve just come here after bursting into tears from the pain 🥲 I’m a week in now and will use the nipple gel more often. Perhaps the silver shields too. The pain has got worse after being nearly numb last night!

just to say I am 4 weeks pp, exclusively breastfeeding and have never cried as much in my adult life as in the last 3 weeks.

For some of us - the begginings of vrestfeeding can be worse than birth itself. To top it up I also had mastitis.

I di feel nipples have starting getting better in the last days😍

So there is light at the end of the tunnel🙏💪

Anything for my little pumpkin 💖

I'm so sorry to hear! I definitely find the shields with a little breast milk in them between feeds has helped

Update: 10 days pp and the latch pain has virtually disappeared on one side, the worst side - which was my left. The right is still a work in progress but I already feel so much relief with one less sore boob! I think it does get better. Going to persevere and see how I get on!

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