Is it just me or

Or when people say “my baby” to my actual baby gets on my last nerves. For example my SIL always does it. Is there a way I can stop it? 😩

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Yep I hated it , I would just say straight up “ she’s not your baby” and never heard it again

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Yes! My MIL says ‘my princess’ and I hate it! It really winds me up! I’m not sure on how to approach it tbh- I just ignore it whenever it’s said or written on posts🙄

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Exactly the same !

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I hate it and I say “I didn’t spend 9 months making her for someone else to call her ‘my baby’” but I also don’t gaf about other peoples feelings anymore. I had to learn people OBVIOUSLY aren’t giving af about mine so why do I care ? And once that got through my brain, stuff was so much easier for me .

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Idk it doesn’t bother me, but the only people who have said it have been close family to me or my bf that’s very active in my baby’s life and she adores , so I know they don’t mean no harm! I take it as a gift that we have a village that loves our baby like their own. Now if it was a toxic person or someone I didn’t like , I probably would feel a way 😂

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I feel the exact same, I just continually say ‘he’s not your baby, he’s my baby’ xx

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I hate that as well my mil says my baby boy whenever we see her and it absolutely irritates my soul I just try to ignore it

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I think it’s less stressful when you correct the behavior you don’t like. There is no reason someone who didn’t carry the baby, or isn’t the person who got you pregnant should say “my baby”

They can easily say “aunties baby”
“Grandmas baby” etc .

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it’s very different when someone says “aunties baby” or “grandmas baby” they are stating that they know their place in that child’s life. It is very different .

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you would be surprised. There are literally people who kidnap children and act like that child is there’s. There are people who literally butcher pregnant women and take their child.

You act like there are crazy DELUSIONAL people in this world.

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I guess not 🤷🏼‍♀️

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😂😂i swear I don’t get it either! Seems way more stressful to argue over semantics because people aren’t referring to themselves in the third person than anything. Everybody knows whose baby it is and saying “my” isn’t changing that🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

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I don’t know anyone like that, but do you think the people who marry men that rape children just know? Or befriend a woman who is after her child the whole time? 99.9% of the time that is not the case. And you thinking that you know everyones intentions is literally INSANE !

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welp we can agree to disagree about this subject!

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forreal! Cause I’m quick to hit a “ Okay take YOUR baby then, cause I need a break” 😂

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This one boils my blood🤣

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I call my nephew “my boy” all the time… I’m 100% aware he is not mine 😂 my mum and my sister refer to my daughters as their girls all the time, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest, we all know who grew and birthed the babies 🤷🏻‍♀️

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It’s literally not a big deal to call baby “my baby” especially when MIL says it and as a mother who is going to be a grandmother of your own baby one day is gonna be thrown back on how that baby resembles your baby many many years ago. Please understand that yes they absolutely know that your baby is not their baby but reminds them of the baby they once had. It’s a loving and endearing thing when you really think about it. Even my niece reminded me of my baby brother from when I was a kid, I absolutely know that she was not my baby when I didn’t have kids of my own. So cmon…I have my own baby now and so did not feel this way when fam called her “my baby”.

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