Question for the mums…. First Mother’s Day

I know it’s over a month away but ….. it’s my first Mother’s Day EVER, and my husband is going to spend it with his mum and siblings 2.5 hours away 😢 I feel just a bit upset that there’s no thought or consideration for me. I have to spend the entire weekend solo parenting and wake up on my own with my baby for Mother’s Day, nothing planned for me or anything to make me feel special / appreciated.

He just said that it’s the only time he can get to see his siblings at the same time….. which I feel is a bit unfair. HE made the choice to move away and in with me…

For context we live in the Cotswolds, 1 sibling lives in Essex and the other 2 siblings live in East Sussex (one lives with the mum and 1 lives 20 mins from the mum)
2 of them see each other all of the time and he goes to visit his mum and sees 2 of his sisters once a month for work anyway, just not the one who lives in Essex…

Am I within reason to be upset about this?! I just feel disheartened with it being my first Mother’s Day, I have a mum myself and I understand that the days about celebrating your mum but it just feels super sad , I’ve tried to explain this to him that I’m upset about it but he doesn’t seem to understand and says I shouldn’t be feeling the way I do as I can just go and see my mum. Like yes, I can and will but it would have been nice for him to want to celebrate me, the mother of HIS baby!? Maybe I’m over sensitive lol

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I would be LIVID. I’m so sorry 😭 you are more important than his mother!! You carried his child for 9+ months, you are the reason he is a father! Men can be so dumb. Did you tell him how you feel?

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Do the same to him when it's father's day and see how it makes him feel! I'm so sorry he hasn't prioritised you ❤️

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I would be upset too. Definitely tell him how it has made you feel. In my experience men need things spelling out to them, no amount of hinting etc works!

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I’ve told him how upset it makes me feel but he doesn’t seem to get it AT ALL and told me I should just spend the day with my own mum lol

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I can be your long lost sibling… come to mine for Father’s Day?

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I think it might be best to sit him down and explain how your feeling (I would feel the same) and maybe there can be a compromise like he spends the morning with you and you all go to his mums for the evening and stay in a nice hotel

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He should prioritise the family he’s created.

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This will be my first Mother’s Day too .. I want to celebrate my mum and see her but I’m also a mum now too .. my partner will want to celebrate his mum .. it’s all so complicated haha!! I might split the day so I get a nice brunch with my partner and son .. then I’ll go to my mums and he can go to his mums and one of us has bubba xx

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Abso-bloody-lutely! I'm so sorry he isn't getting it! Having a child has really highlighted to me how much you need to spell it out for men, even having to do so over and over...
I appreciate he has a mum he wants to see, but he now should prioritise you... and work out seeing his mum around it. It's shouldn't be a case of "choosing one over the other"
Maybe try and have another chat about how much it means to you - no distractions when LO is in bed, and if he still isn't getting it... I'd book myself something on whatever day and tell him he's babysitting. And, definitely match the energy on Father's day! 🤦‍♀️ Hopefully he pulls a surprise out the bag.

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